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Today Is a Good Day to Talk with God

“Today Is a Good Day to Talk with God” by Joan Y. Edwards

Many times during the holidays, you may forget about God. You may be so busy getting ready for special celebrations and get-togethers with family and friends that you leave God out of it. He wants to be there with you. He wants to be a part of your ritual and routine. He wants you to talk with him each morning. He wants you to talk with him during the day. He wants you to talk with him before you go to sleep.

God wants to help you achieve your dreams. He wants to heal you of your ailments. He wants to increase the money you earn and save.

You might say, “I don’t know how to talk with God. He is so big and powerful. He won’t talk to someone as unimportant as I am.”

This is not true. God made you in his image. He wants to be a part of your life. He wants to know the things that bother you. He wants to have a relationship with you.

If you need a reminder, put an index card on your dresser. Put an index card on your pillow. Put one on the remote control for the TV. Put a screensaver on your phone that says, “Talk to God.”

Talk to God in the morning. Talk to God at noon. Talk to God at night.

He’s always listening. He’s never too busy. If you call him on the phone and it seems he isn’t answering, think again. Check your ears to make sure they are open to new words from him. Check your eyes to see if they have on sunglasses that are so dark, you can’t see anything. Check your stomach to make sure you’re not eating foods that you know are not good for you. Check your feet to make sure you’re not walking into places you know are not good for you.

Ask God to forgive you for your mistakes and erring ways. Ask him to help you. Believe he will help you. He will be there for you. God’s got you covered. God loves you very much.
Love yourself and love others, too. Proclaim that you are a child of the most high God. 

Thank you for reading my blog. I posted this on another blog of mine. I’ve decided to combine them. I hope you enjoyed this. Good luck in all your endeavors.


Joan’s Children’s Liturgy Gospel Related items for Third Sunday in Advent – December 17, 2017. Adults will enjoy them, too.

  1. Devotional B3 3rd Sunday in Advent
  2. Crossword B3 Voice Crying Out in the Desert
  3. Wordsearch B3 Voice Crying Out in the Desert

Flip Flap Floodle, Will this little duck’s song save him from Mr. Fox?
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God, Thank You for …

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“God, Thank You for…” by Joan Y. Edwards

God – thank you for my parents! Thank you for my grandparents. Thank you for my siblings. Thank you for giving me a sense of humor. Thank you for the food you give me and my family. Thank you for the courage you give me to face each day with renewed vigor and wisdom. Thank you for the inner voice you give me to know the path you chose for me. Thank you for all the people I’ve met in my lifetime. They taught me how to improve myself and how to find you, God. You are in everyone I’ve met.

Thank you for those who read my blog.
Thank you for those who write comments for my blog.

Thank you to words that form on my lips and in my heart and find my way into my website, blogs, and books.
Thank you for pictures that form in my mind and with my brush, pen, and computer.
Thank you for tears that wash away my sadness.
Thank you for the hugs that gives love and energy.
Thank you for life that gives and receives.
Thank you for those who talk.
Thank you for those who listen.
Thank you to those who write.
Thank you to those who read.
Thank you to those who publish.
Thank you to those who print.
Thank you to those who sell.
Thank you to those who buy.
Thank you to those who dance.
Thank you to those who sing.
Thank you to those who play a musical instrument.
Thank you to those who teach.
Thank you to those who minister to other’s needs.
Thank you for those who heal.
Thank you for those who mend.
Thank you for those who sew.
Thank you for those who create.
Thank you for the water to drink.
Thank you for the plants that grow.
Thank you for the problem solvers.
Thank you for the people who clean up dwellings and offices.
Thank you for the garbage and recycle collectors.
Thank you for the firemen, policemen, and paramedics.
Thank you for the military.
Thank you for the doctors, nurses, and hospital employees.
Thank you for everyone.


This list could go on and on. You finish it for me. Add things or people that fill you with gratitude.

Enjoy a moment of silence to soak in the peace of your day, Thanksgiving Day. You are one of the reasons the world twirls around each day! I thank God for you. Happy Thanksgiving!


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I Love America

“I Love America,” by Joan Y. Edwards

Thank you, God for creating America so I can roam where I want. I love America. It’s the land of my birth. Many people protect it and others on earth. It’s fun to see people, animals, plants, skyscrapers, houses, cars, planes, and trains there.

People can take the word “God” out of the pledge of allegiance. They can make laws saying prayers out loud isn’t allowed. However, people can’t take God out of America. They can’t take God out of the world. You can’t take God out of the people. God is in each of us, no matter what country we live in. Our God is good and gave each of us a homeland. I’m proud that mine is America, home of the free.

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Joan Y. Edwards and Her Mother, Ethel Darnell Meyer

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Joan and Her Husband, Carl Edwards

Thank you, Eyvonna Rains for asking me to take part in this Blog Tour. In her Blog Tour post, she shares a few of the wonderful illustrations for her new book, Breakfast Is for the Birdshttp://countrymisadventures.wordpress.com/2013/09/16/books-and-blog-tours/

I love to write. I write for children, young adults, and for adults. I love to learn. I love to teach. I love to incorporate humor in my writing. Laughter is healing. Here are three things you may or may not know about me and my writing:

  1. At present, I am working on revisions for Joan’s Elder Care Guide. I’m happy to say that 4RV Publishing moved the release date to June, 2014. Now it will be 2015 before it is released. Any month is a great month to launch a new book.

Joan’s Elder Care Guide is a resource for caregivers packed with practical day-to-day survival tips from fourteen years of taking care of my mother and helping my husband with two health problems. The guide has charts to assess an elder’s skills and abilities necessary for daily living. It gives questions to ask before making the commitment to care for your elder at home. It shows ways to decide if a certain elder living facility is the right place for your elder. It has resources to help make things go smoother to meet the needs of both the elder and the caregiver.


My Family Loves Flip Flap Floodle, Your Family Will Love It, Too

My Family Loves Flip Flap Floodle, Your Family Will Love It, Too

  1. In 2004 I wrote, illustrated, and self-published the picture book, Flip Flap Floodle, the happy little duck who won’t give up: http://www.amazon.com/Flip-Flap-Floodle-Joan-Edwards/dp/1594572852/. When I read it to a group of children or adults, It amazes me how Flip keeps their attention. They love the repetition of his song and sing along with me. When he’s afraid, they’re afraid. When he’s proud, they’re proud. My family loves Flip Flap Floodle, I believe that your family will love it, too. Flip Flap Floodle keeps on playing his song even when he finds himself in the belly of Mr. Fox. I’ve seen that this little duck encourage people of all ages to face their problems with courage and determination,

Jane Henderson stated in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch on August 16, 2013: http://www.stltoday.com/entertainment/books-and-literature/book-blog/how-many-books-do-self-published-authors-sell/article_4fafc45a-e7a3-11e1-a95e-0019bb30f31a.htm that most self-published books only sell from 100-150 copies. If that is true, Flip Flap Floodle is a success. I personally sold 264 copies of it and about 36 online for a total of 300. I have 13 Five Star Reviews on Amazon. Thank you to all the people who bought Flip Flap Floodle. Thank you to everyone who took the time to write a review for me.

Dan Poynter, self-publishing guru suggested that self-publishers give away at least 200 books. He said it would help virtually unknown people and books win over the hearts of readers. So I did that. David Laughrun tells Why Giving Away Thousands Of Free Books Is A Good Thing in his blog.

In 2011, I mentioned to a motel manager at our family reunion that I was the author of Flip Flap Floodle.  He said, “Flip Flap Floodle.” I’ve heard that book. My daughters read it to me. It’s a great book. That day I felt ten feet tall. He bought a copy of it! Hip Hip Hooray! Then I felt twenty feet tall.


  1. A new picture book I’m working on right now is: Porky Wins the Race. Here’s the pitch: Porky hates racing, but agrees to enter a race to help save Farmer Dell’s farm. He doesn’t realize that each contestant must take a bath. will Farmer Dell have to sell or can bubbles entice Porky to pull Farmer Dell passed the finish line to win $10,000 to save the farm?

Thank you for reading my blog. I appreciate you very much. You are a gift to me. Thank you for sharing your time with me.


Please continue this Blog Tour with the following three creative and talented young adult and/or children’s authors. You will learn fascinating things about them and what they write. Enjoy!

1. Sandra Warren http://sandrawarrenwrites.blogspot.com/2013/09/blog-tour-next-stop-grateful-writer.html
2. Gretchen Griffith http://www.gretchengriffith.blogspot.com/2013/09/blog-tour-interview.html
3. Megan Vance http://www.inchristalone-byhismercy.blogspot.com/2013/09/9302013-blog-tour.html

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The big celebration comes when we reach 70,000 views. It may be during the next 3-4 days. I will give away three free critiques, a free copy of Flip Flap Floodle, and free copy of a writing craft book, too. Come back so you can leave a comment on the celebration blog to put your name in the hat.

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33 Books to Harness the Power within You

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“33 Books to Harness the Power within You” by Joan Y. Edwards

In a former blog post, 28 Craft Books to Help You Get a Grip on Writing, I said that you should read 100 books that empower you to believe you can do what you want. You have unexplored and unknown power within you. You need books to help you build and improve on the belief system inside you. Look for sources that match up with your personal needs to meet your goals. Locate books, DVDs, and CDs of the great thinkers, philosophers, and motivators. Read books that teach you how to harness the power of your beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, and attention to reach your goals. There are hundreds of positive thinking books out there. Below I named 33 books that I believe will be beneficial to read. Check for them at your local library, borrow them from a friend, or buy them from a used-book store.

God is within each one of you. He wants you to achieve your goals and dreams. “Believe and it shall be granted unto you.”

Focus on what you want. Where you focus your attention is what you’re going to get.

Be grateful for what you have. What you are grateful for, you will receive more of it.


  1. Bjorn Secher. Your Appointment with Success: The Way to Get Rich: http://www.amazon.com/Your-Appointment-With-Success-Rich/dp/0811901971/ Shows the importance of your attention and your thoughts in reaching your goals and getting what you want.
  2. Bob Proctor. You Were Born Rich: http://www.amazon.com/You-Were-Born-Rich-Proctor/dp/1920909028
  3. Creflo Dollar. 8 Steps to Create the Life You Want: The Anatomy of a Successful Life: Creflo Dollar tells you the importance of watching the words you say. He also tells the importance of reading the Bible. He says that if you change your thinking you change your life.
  4. Duke Robinson. Too Nice for Your Own Good-How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakeshttp://www.amazon.com/Too-Nice-Your-Good-Self-Sabotaging/dp/0446673862/This book aims to help you let go of your need to please everyone. Help you to say “no” and feel wonderful about it.  Help you to stop trying to control, save and protect others and simply support them.
  5. Earl Nightingale. The Strangest Secret. http://www.amazon.com/The-Strangest-Secret-Earl-Nightingale/dp/161720286X/ Think in abundance. Your thoughts attract experiences to match them. Nightingale motivates you to clear thinking and action.
  6. God’s People. The Holy Bible.Empowering words are found here: “Ask and you shall receive…Love is patient…Love is kind. Believe and it shall be given to you.”
  7. Gregory Hartley. Get People to Do What You Want: http://www.amazon.com/Get-People-What-You-Want/dp/1564149935/ You’ll find practical answers of how to win people over.
  8. Hale Dwoskin and Jack Canfield. The Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace, and Emotional Well-Being: http://www.amazon.com/Sedona-Method-Happiness-Emotional-Well-Being/dp/0971933413/ This book helps you release feelings that keep you stuck in fear and nervousness. When you release the feelings, you can think clearly and make better decisions. You will be able to accept yourself and others better.
  9. Henriette Anne Klauser. Write It Down, Make It Happen-Knowing What You Want and Getting It: http://www.amazon.com/Write-Down-Make-Happen-Knowing/dp/0684850028/This book explains how simply writing down your goals in life is the first step toward achieving them.
  10. Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. Chicken Soup for the Soul: http://www.amazon.com/Chicken-Soup-Soul-Jack-Canfield/dp/1558749209
  11. Janine Driver. You Say More than You Think: http://www.amazon.com/You-Say-More-Than-Think/dp/0307453987/This book explains a meaning of body language. It could be beneficial in describing your characters, as well as insightful about you personally.
  12. Jeff Keller. Attitude Is Everything-Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life: http://www.amazon.com/Attitude-Is-Everything-Change-Attitude/dp/0979041031/  This helps you see how your attitude can affect your life and tells you how to change it. 
  13. Jennifer Baumgardner. You Are What You Wear: http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-What-Wear-Clothes/dp/0738215201/ Dr. Baumgartner helps readers identify the psychology behind their choices, so they can not only develop a personal style that suits their identity but also make positive changes in all areas of life.
  14. Joel Osteen. Your Best Life Now: http://www.amazon.com/Your-Best-Life-Now-Potential/dp/B0026IBY1I/This book tells you to focus on using your skills and strengths to reach your goals. Joel’s philosophy is that God wants only the best for his children. This book gives you seven steps to a happier you.
  15. Joyce Meyer. Living Beyond Your Feelings: http://www.amazon.com/Living-Beyond-Your-Feelings-Controlling/dp/0446538523/ She discusses the way that the brain processes and stores memories and thoughts, and then – emotion by emotion – she explains how we can manage our reactions to those emotions. By doing that, she gives the reader a toolbox for managing the way we react to the onslaught of feelings that can wreak havoc on our lives.
  16. Kate Marshall and Dave Marshall. What I Love about You: http://www.amazon.com/What-I-Love-About-You/dp/0767923154/ It would be fun to answer the fill in the blank questions in this book about yourself, as well another person you love.
  17. Keith Harrell: Attitude of Gratitude: http://www.amazon.com/Attitude-Gratitude-Keith-Harrell/dp/1401902006/ Memoir of Keith Harrell and how he overcame stuttering and became a motivational speaker through a grateful attitude.
  18. Keith Harrell. Attitude Is Everything-10 Life-Changing Steps to Turn Attitude into Action: http://www.amazon.com/Attitude-Everything-Rev-Ed-Life-Changing/dp/0060779721/  10 steps to build positive attitudes and rid yourself of negative baggage. Tells how to line up actions to meet your goals.
  19. Louise L. Hay. You Can Heal Your Life http://www.amazon.com/You-Heal-Your-Life-Gift/dp/1561706280/ Louise says that if you are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed. You create your experiences by your thoughts and feelings.
  20. Maxwell Maltz. Psycho-Cybernetics(Mind Steering): http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758  Your subconscious mind steers you to success or failure depending upon your beliefs in your subconscious mind.
  21. Merl Runion. How to Use Power Phrases to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, & Get What You Want: http://www.amazon.com/Power-Phrases-What-Mean-Want/dp/0071424857/ Speak without fear of misinterpretation or negative emotional responses. Master six basic methods for crafting power phrases for any setting and every social, professional, or interpersonal situation.
  22. Napoleon Hill. Think and Grow Rich: http://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Napoleon-Hill/dp/1612930298/ Do what you love as a service to others to grow rich.
  23. Norman Vincent Peale. You Can If You Think You Can: http://www.amazon.com/You-Can-If-Think/dp/0671765914/Dramatic, heartwarming stories of how men and women — of all ages and in all walks of life — transformed their lives and careers by following Dr. Peale’s philosophy of positive thinking. Learn to develop the vital knowledge of inner power to carry you over every obstacle.
  24. Paul J. Meyer (2003). Attitude Is Everything: http://www.amazon.com/Attitude-Is-Everything-Paul-Meyer/dp/0898113040/  Your attitude affects every facet of your life.   
  25. Rhonda Byrne. The Secret: http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Rhonda-Byrne/dp/1582701709/ This book shows you the results of controlled attention, beliefs, and the power of attraction.
  26. Robert H. Schuller. Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do: http://www.amazon.com/Tough-Times-Never-Last-People/dp/0553273329/Reading this book helps you realize it’s not the end of the world. It leads you to “I have the power” thinking. It helps you say, “There is enough. I have an abundance of everything I need.”
  27. Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. What to Say When You Talk to Yourself: http://www.amazon.com/What-Say-When-Talk-Yourself/dp/0671708821/ This book has great ideas to boost your spirits. Do something for others. Set goals that have action steps with them.
  28. Steve Chandler. 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself-Change Your Life Forever: http://www.amazon.com/100-Ways-Motivate-Yourself-Third/dp/1601632444/ Steve Chandler explains the nature of achievement. He doesn’t merely give you encouragement, he gives you options.
  29. Stuart Smalley and Al Franken. I’m Good Enough, I’m Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me! Daily Affirmations: http://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Smart-Doggone-People/dp/0440504708/Hilarious affirmations including: Today I will laugh at least once. When I visit family, I’ll stay in a motel.
  30. T. D. Jakes. Let It Go-Forgive So You Can Be Forgiven: http://www.amazon.com/Let-Go-Forgive-You-Forgiven/dp/1416547339/ Jakes shows you how to hurdle hurt and live in joyful freedom when you let go and forgive.
  31. Terry Cole Whitaker. What You Think of Me Is None of My Business: http://www.amazon.com/What-You-Think-None-Business/dp/051509479X/ This book helps you realize there is an abundance for you of whatever you need. It leads you to self-empowerment.
  32. Tom Rath and Mary Reckmeyer. How Full Is Your Bucket: http://www.amazon.com/How-Full-Is-Your-Bucket/dp/1595620036  When you treat others in a positive way, you fill not only their buckets but yours as well.
  33. Wallace D. Wattles – The Science of Getting Rich, The Science of Being Great & The Science of Being Well: http://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Wallace-D-Wattles-Including/dp/1612931057/ The Science of Getting Rich is the basis for the movie The Secret. It explains the laws of attraction.

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20 Reasons to Submit Your Manuscript

“20 Reasons to Submit Your Manuscript” by Joan Y. Edwards

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When should you submit your manuscript?

  1. When the manuscript is the best you can do at this particular moment in time.
  2. When you believe with unwavering faith that there is a market for your manuscript.
  3. When your manuscript is correct in formatting, spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
  4. When your manuscript content meets the genre guidelines of the selected publisher or agent.

If you don’t believe your manuscript will be published, change your thinking and/or change your manuscript.

Before you hit the send button for electronic submissions, see a picture of the cover of your book, and say: “This company buys this manuscript. Thank you, God for helping me get this book published.”

Before you put the envelope with the stamps in the mailbox or hand it to the counter person at the Post Office, see a picture of the cover of you book and say: “This company buys my manuscript.” Say the Our Father or other prayer as you leave the Post Office.

Question: How many times should you submit your manuscript?

Answer: As many times as it takes to receive a contract for publication.

20 Reasons to Submit Your Manuscript

  1. It’s healthy.
  2. It’ll make you smile.
  3. Your book will get published sooner.
  4. People need the information you are writing now.
  5. People are waiting to read what you write.
  6. It takes you one step closer to publication.
  7. It is a big milestone in your life as a writer.
  8. It will take you to a higher level of thinking.
  9. It frees you to write a new manuscript.
  10. It opens up unlimited possibilities.
  11. It shows your unwavering faith in you and your story.
  12. It solidifies the image of your published book in your mind.
  13. It will excite the child within you for weeks.
  14. It gives you a great reason to celebrate you.
  15. It will create visions of money in your head.
  16. It will give you a reason to be proud of yourself.
  17. It will enable you to take the next step in your writing career.
  18. It gives you a sense of well-being.
  19. It builds confidence in you and your capabilities as a writer.
  20. It will make God proud of you.

What Are Step-by-Step Directions for Submission?

Here are links to pages with step-by-step directions for submissions that lead to publication:

Pub Sub Directions

  1. Week One
  2. Week Two
  3. Week Three Submit your manuscript before the end of this month. Pub Subbing aims for the Third Friday, but earlier or later is fine.
  4. Week Four

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How to Keep Out of the Snares of Long-Term Sadness

“How to Keep Out of the Snares of Long-Term Sadness” by Joan Y. Edwards

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Sadness is a feeling that can be extremely intense and actually cause you pain. It can be a fleeting moment in time, or it can last a long time. Sometimes you are sad for a couple of days or a week at the most. Sadness that lasts months at a time may be called depression.  You want to keep out of the snares of long-term sadness. It’s a  sickness in itself. In order to help you keep out of the jaws of the depression traps, I believe my suggestions and those in the resources will help you.

Are things really as bad as they seem?

Are you jumping to conclusions?

Did you cross the bridge of bad things before you got to it or before it even existed?

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  • Worrying causes sadness.
  • Focusing on the worst-case scenario of what could happen
  • Failure to be able to accomplish what you want
  • Loss of a job
  • a break-up with a friend, a friend moves away
  • a pet is lost or dies,
  • Being sick  or seeing someone sick

Of course they say sadness can deepen into depression. I want to help you prevent that:

How to Lessen Sadness

Recently, I’ve been surrounded by people who were close to death…so close they were afraid they were going to die. I, too, had thoughts that they might not live, but hoping and praying that they would live.  With loved ones on the verge of dying, I was extremely sad. I know it must be hard for them. Months and months of illness, in comas or coughing so much, you can’t think straight is difficult for those who are sick. Then I happened to think. I should be celebrating that my friends are still alive. They are very much alive. I was crossing the bridge of death before it was built.

In 1994, many moons ago, my ex-husband died, two uncles died, and two others died within a few months of each other. I was devastated. I felt like they were all screaming at me saying, “Come on up here with us.” They wanted me to come up there to heaven with them. I told them, “Sorry. I’m not ready.  I’m not coming up there yet.”

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Four years ago on March 18, 2009, my Mother, Ethel Darnell Meyer died. Last year on March 25, 2012 my older sister, Judith Carolyn Thomson died. When people in your immediate family die, it may affect you more than you realize. You and I must say to them, “Sorry. I’m not ready. I’m not coming up there yet.”

With yourself and your loved ones, you want control of the situation.  You want to stop sad things from happening to them. It is definitely not always possible to do that. Once you let go and say, “It’s all right if they go and it’s really great if they stay, it releases that stress inside your emotional self. You’ll notice your muscles aren’t as tense.

Thinking that if they die, you cannot live may lead you into a long state of sadness, into depression. Make an effort to create a balance in your life so that you are not too sad.

Focus on setting a goal for something you would enjoy doing in the near future. Give yourself something to look forward to doing.  Those who are sick or who have died don’t want you to spend the rest of your life being sad. They wouldn’t want you sad for months and months. They would want you to achieve your dreams and be everything you can be.

The older I get the more I think about the possibility that my time for dying is getting closer. But then, you say. “Joan, everyone is getting closer to the time when they will die.”

You’re right. Some people die before they reach 70. Not everyone who is in their 70’s dies. Not everyone who is in their 80’s, 90’s, or 100’s dies. It all comes down to when God is ready for you, he’ll call you whether you are 10 minutes old or 115 years old. Methuselah died when he was 969 years old according to Genesis 5:27. I personally think they must have counted years differently back then.

Being calm enables you to help those who are caretakers of the sick and the dying. When and if they die, then you  can deal with it. After you’ve admitted the possibility of death and also the possibility of living, it is best to focus on making the best of the situation. Focus on living. Be thankful for as many things about that person as you can list.

Do something new. Go somewhere different. Get books to learn something new. Make something. Bake something. Try not to focus in your mind about them dying or being dead. Focus on the fact that right now, they are alive. Do everything you can to help them live. When you’ve done everything you can possibly do to help them live, then you’ll be happy with yourself, knowing that you did everything you could to extend your loved ones life. God will certainly be happy with you. If God is happy with you, don’t worry about anyone else.

  1. Prayer – Remember that not only does the sick person need your prayers but also the doctors, nurses, technicians, janitors, cooks, etc. in the hospital need prayers and thanks, too.
  2. Visit
  3. Gift
  4. Letter
  5. Card
  6. Flowers, food
  7. Email
  8. Phone call
  9. Money to help defray medical costs
  10. Money for services in the hospital that’s not usually provided – nails, hair stylist.

It is important to do things for you so that you will have the power and energy to do things for others. Here are a few suggestions of things to do for you:

  1. Take a bath or shower.
  2. Put on your favorite outfit.
  3. Treat yourself to a rubdown massage.
  4. Get your hair styled.
  5. Get a manicure and/or a pedicure.
  6. If a man, get a shave at a barber shop.
  7. Eat at your favorite restaurant.
  8. Watch funny movies.
  9. Watch a sad movie.
  10. Read a good book.
  11. Listen to your favorite music.
  12. Take a walk.
  13. Go bowling, play basketball or a sport.
  14. Go grocery shopping, get stuff to make a favorite dish
  15. Play cards or other games.
  16. Sew.
  17. Create or paint pottery.
  18. Build a bird house or other creation from wood.
  19. Write a story, poem, or song about you and the person who is sick.
  20. Take Vitamin B Complex and Vitamin C… Ask your Doctor or Health Care Provider first. This may calm your body and help you lessen stress of your body and mind.
  21. Talk to a friend about the situation. Just talking about it and sharing your feelings lightens your load.

If you are a caregiver, remember that you must take care of you so that you can take care of your loved one. You are a blessing and a gift. Like the flight attendant tells you on a plane, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then help others put on their oxygen masks.

I really liked reading “12 Things Happy People Do Differently:” http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/08/30/12-things-happy-people-do-differently/


  1. Jacob Sokol. “12 Things Happy People Do Differently:” http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/08/30/12-things-happy-people-do-differently/
  2. Lisabetta DiVita. “What Are the Causes of Sadness?” http://www.livestrong.com/article/89621-causes-sadness/
  3. Sen. “Stop Being Sad:” http://www.outofstress.com/stop-being-sad/
  4. Web MD.”Causes of Depression:” http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/causes-depression

Thank you for reading this blog post. I hope it keeps you out of the snares of long-term sadness. Please share ways that help you handle sad situations.

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Celebrate you three times today. Once for what you were, once for what you are, and once for what you hope to become. Visualize it as if you’ve already achieved it.

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards

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