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Where Are You Going?


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“Where Are You Going?” by Joan Y. Edwards

Many times in your life, you know exactly where you want to go. But, you might have trouble proving that this is your destination when people see you in a different place or different surroundings.

If you plan to ride a camel in Egypt, would you need to practice first?

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Practicing would be good.

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If you want to learn about a famous city, figure out the best transportation to get you there.

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Is it easier to find a parking place for a motorcycle than for a car?

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Do they have bike lanes?

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Will you need a truck to carry what you learn?

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Are you speeding away from a problem?

 

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Do you need rest from the fast pace or the usual routine?

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Do you need to get away from it all and fly to a new part of the world and land in a new situation?

 

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I hope these pictures and words move you to enjoy where you are or to plan a trip down the street or to another world with your writing and illustrating! Whatever you do and wherever you go, enjoy being you! You’ll get there. God will empower you with answers to your questions and deliver you safely in the face of the reality of your dreams!

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3 Ways to Reach Your Goals


During National Brain Week in March 12-16, I listened to John Assaraf’s Brainathon. He and the others who shared their videos that week enlightened me in many ways. Here’s a link to download John Assaraf’s Blueprint for achieving his goals. Don’t use his Blueprint word for word. Make it meaningful to you. Personalize it to help you meet your goals. 

I learned years ago that you should write down or print out your goals and dreams and put them in a frame on a wall. This will help you achieve them. This has definitely worked on many of my goals. However, there are a few dreams of mine that have been elusive. I haven’t achieved them yet. If you are like me and haven’t met all of your goals yet, revisit the wording of your goals and make sure you still want to achieve them.

There were three points that Assaraf suggested that I believe will help you reach all of your goals, especially those difficult ones that elude your grasp. I believe these ideas will help you reach your goals: 

  1. Read over your goals. Meditate on them every morning. Pray to God and thank him for helping you achieve your goals. 

  2. Take action toward one of your goals every morning after you read them.

  3. At night before going to sleep, give thanks to God for all the experiences of your day.

Set goals to meet all of your needs. If all of the needs are crying out to you. Choose 3 to focus on at first. Then when you calm down, after a few days. Add one more goal if you feel comfortable.

Stubborn goals that you may not completely believe may have to be coaxed a little. The way to persuade your subconscious mind is to  repeat your goals out loud and state these beliefs for 21 days  It may take longer. However, your subconscious mind will stop fighting it and it will finally say, “Okay. All right. Okay. So you can really do this.”

Then it will find a way to make this goal happen for you.

Human needs:

  1. Spiritual
  2. Physical
  3. Social
  4. Emotional
  5. Financial
  6. Mental – Be sure to include an educational goal, something that stretches your mind a little.
  7. Fun – What is fun for you might meet more than an emotional need. It can be a combination benefit – serve to meet two or more needs at one time.

Thank you for reading my blog. I’d love to hear from you. If you need help wording your goals, I’ll be glad to help you with one.

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Set Your Goals – You Can Do It


 

“Set Your Goals – You Can Do It” by Joan Y. Edwards

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This is the time to review your past goals and set your goals for the current year. Any time is a good time to look at and focus on recommitting yourself to your goals. If they are no longer meaningful to you, it is time to revise them to make the goals in your mind and on paper ones that you really want to reach.

When I was in sixth grade, my teacher had these little encouragement signs all over the room. One of my favorites was: “Make a Wish Upon a Star, take a seat and there you are.”  This showed me that if you set your eye on a goal, you can reach it.

Day 1 Title the page with your name and goals for the current year. Brainstorm possible goals. Set time to reach the goals for December 31, 2018 or 12 months after you’ve made your list. List them all on a piece of paper or in a file on your computer. Let them sit overnight in your mind.  Save file as Day 1 Goals for this year.

Day 2 Read them over the next day. Delete any goals that you have already reached or revise them to be goals you really want to reach. Delete goals that you wouldn’t care if you reached it or not at the end of the year. You want your goals to be items you feel a strong yearning to reach. Save this file as Day 2 Goals for this year.

Day 3 Read the goals again. Make sure you agree with them. Make sure you believe you can accomplish them. Revise any to make them so they not too hard and not too easy. Goldilocks goals…just right. Believable and Achievable.

Add 1-3 Images at the top of your goals to inspire you.

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Print out your goals. Post in a picture frame on the wall or on a file cabinet where you can see them every day. Revise when necessary to keep your mind positive and motivated to meet your goals and live and conquer your fears.

There are many ways to reach your goals. You know yourself better than anyone else. Choose the method that works for you. Many people make goals in their heads and are successful at keeping them. Others write down their goals. Still others share their goals with a close friend that keeps them accountable for their goals.

As for me, I like writing the goals down so that I can look at them every once in a while to see how I am doing.

If you check your goals every 6 months, you’ll be amazed when you see how many of your goals you have reached and how close you are to others. There may even be one or two you want to change and set a different goal.

Here is a link about a Harvard Business School study of goal setting that says that it’s a good idea to not only write down your goals but also write down the steps to achieve them.  Even if you don’t write down the steps, you can achieve your goal.

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Happy New Year 2017!


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Each year when the New Year comes in. It’s fun to remember the great things that happened during the prior year and be thankful for all the people and things that made it prosperous. Let go of worrying about the things that happened over which you had no control. Forgive grievances. Make plans for the new year and set reasonable goals.

Here’s to forgiving grievances. It’s healthy for you not to carry anger into the new year.

Here’s to remembering the great things that happened during 2016.

Here’s to thanking the great people you helped you along your life’s journey.

Here’s to thanking God for all that He gave you during the past year. Thank him for filling your heart with ways to keep you on the path to meet your goals.

Make plans for 2017:

Health – Diet, Exercise of the mind and body

Financial Health – Put money in savings, be frugal and wise with spending; research before you buy

Vacation – Take time off from work

Work – Give an honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay.

Daily Relaxation – Meditation – Prayer

Fun – Do something fun for you every day that costs nothing. Do something fun once a week that costs a little. Do something fun every 6 months that you’ve saved up for. This means you really want to do it.  So it’ll be worth every penny. Never spend money earmarked for a bill you owe that’s due today.

Help someone do something they can’t do for themselves.

I’ve given you a few ideas. Take time to contemplate these ideas and those that pop into your sweet head. When something you want to accomplish comes to mind, write it down, and set a reward for you when you accomplish your goal.

Rewards can be whatever will spur you onto achieving those goals.

Whenever I do something that needs to be done, but I don’t want to do it, I buy myself a pecan roll from Panera Bread.

After I taught school for 30 years, I got tired of checking papers. I had Language, Math, Science, Social Studies, Spelling, and Handwriting papers that needed to be graded every day. I decided that I should hire someone to check some of these papers. I could pay them $3.00 an hour. I should choose someone who really needed the money to check the papers. Who did I know who really needed money? Me. So I paid myself $3.00 an hour to check the papers and bought myself a new dress, a pair of shoes, or went to the movies with that money from checking papers. It helped me laugh. Being able to laugh about a problem shows that it no longer has control over you. That you’ve let it go.

Happy New Year! Good luck in making any New Year resolutions, plans, and goals. I’m so proud that God had our paths to cross. You are an inspiration to me. Whatever you can see in your mind, you can achieve. Never Give Up on you. Your dreams await your footsteps.

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You’re a Strong Leader


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This is Day 12 of “Say Good Things February.”

Say Good Things February-Copyright 2016 Joan Y. Edwards

 

 

 

Are you a strong leader? My answer for you follows:

You’re a strong leader. You are flexible. You are courageous. You focus on the end result. You have great communication skills. You speak so others understand. You listen attentively to what your team members say. You delegate effectively and efficiently to get the task at hand done properly. You use proven old-school and incorporate appropriate modern-day methods to meet the goals for your team. You help build the strengths of those on your team. You empower all under my leadership because you use their innate skills and educate and train them to minimize the focus on their weaknesses. You respect people. You are a “people” person. You are compassionate yet hold yourself and others accountable for their actions. You correct others when they make mistakes without damaging their self-esteem. You encourage, thank, celebrate, and reward loyalty, dedication, hard work, and new ideas for making things better.  

Repeat these statements with “I” rather than “You” to make them true affirmations for you.

I’m a strong leader. I am flexible. I am courageous. I focus on the end result. I have great communication skills.  I speak so others understand. I  listen attentively to what my team members say. I delegate effectively and efficiently to get the task at hand done properly. I use proven old-school and incorporate appropriate modern-day methods to meet the goals for your team. I help build the strengths of those on my team. I empower all under my leadership because I use their innate skills and educate and train them to minimize the focus on their weaknesses. I respect people. I am a “people” person. I am compassionate yet hold myself and others on my team accountable for their actions. I correct others when they make mistakes without damaging their self-esteem. You encourage, thank, celebrate, and reward loyalty, dedication, hard work, and new ideas for making things better.

I discovered after I kept saying these things over and over again for days, weeks, and months, they became true because of actions I took.

Your subconscious mind will lead you to make it true. Believe it’s possible. You have to believe it’s possible. You must believe it’s true. Believe in you. Love yourself. Love your leadership skills and abilities.

Here are three resources to learn other skills that strong leaders have:

  1. Bill McBean. “Five Characteristics of Great Leaders:” http://www.fastcompany.com/3004914/5-characteristics-great-leaders/
  2. Robert Hewes, PhD. “Top Ten Traits of Great Leaders:” http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/top-ten-traits-of-great-leaders.aspx/
  3. Tanya Prive. “Top Ten Qualties that Make a Great Leader:” http://www.forbes.com/sites/tanyaprive/2012/12/19/top-10-qualities-that-make-a-great-leader/#2047cee13564/

I’m sure that each of you has met people you define as strong leaders; not perfect, but strong. Here are some I have encountered during my life, so far:

  • John F. Kennedy. “Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.”
  • Martin Luther King. “I have a dream.” Strong leaders share their visions with us.
  • Pope Francis. “Be merciful.”  Strong leaders show compassion and yet hold us accountable for our actions.
  • A Sister of the Immaculate Heart of Mary who taught me in sixth grade: “Hitch your wagon to a star; take a seat and there you are.” She had wonderful quotes with illustrations all around our classroom. When we want to achieve a goal, strong leaders inspire us to set our goals, believe in ourselves, and take action. Do these things and before long you’ll reach your goal.
  • Miss Dawson: ninth grade history teacher. Do things in a certain order that brings about the best outcome for your project. She taught us world history in chronological order and showed us cause and effect relationships between people and events. What a great lesson! What a great leader she was!

I hope that you find that using affirmations gives you a stronger belief in you, your skills, abilities, and positive experiences. Thanks for reading my blog. I hope you’ll share the post with others. Please feel free to ask questions and tell me stories about great leadership from your life in the comment area. I’d love to hear from you!

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Keep on the Path to Your Goal


“Keep on the Path to Your Goal” by Joan Y. Edwards

I deleted the post that was here on blogging from October 24, 2014. i wrote this one, December 4, 2017.

Keep on the path to your goal. Look for 3 tried and true ways. Look for 3 new ways to get where you want to go. Decide which is the best for you. The one that invigorates you and gives you energy to act in a positive manner is a good plan.

Realize that sometimes life stops you in motion. Fears, sadness, or exhaustion may cause you to “run in place” or “freeze.” It’s okay. When you’re feeling better and realize you’ve been “treading water,” renew your commitment to this goal or go for a new goal. Perhaps the old goal wasn’t what you really wanted to do.

Write your goals down on paper. Read them over. Change them so that they are meaningful and fill you with the desire to reach them. Decide how long you think it will take to reach your goal.

Embark on your journey. Good luck.

 

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7 Ways to Move Toward Your Goals in 2014


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“Move Toward Your Goals in 2014” by Joan Y. Edwards

2014 is a year for movement. Don’t sit on your dreams. Move toward your goals in 2014. Here are 7 ways to help you keep moving to your goals.

  1. Be Thankful
  2. Accept Yourself As You Are
  3. Relinquish Control
  4. Have Faith in Yourself
  5. Exercise
  6. See with Different Eyes
  7. Celebrate

1. Be Thankful

  • Albert Schweitzer quote: “In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.
  • Buddha quote: “Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”
  • Thornton Wilder quote: “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”
  • Yogi Bhajan quote: “Gratitude is the open door to abundance.”

If you want something other than what you have, be grateful for what you have. If you are unhappy with the situation you are in, be grateful that it’s not worse, and believe that it will get better. Focus on what you want. Be thankful for what you have.

2. Accept Yourself As You Are

For the last four years I studied Hale Dwoskin’s Sedona Method about letting go. Letting go of expectations allows you to enjoy the moment as it is. Letting go of wanting and trying to get control of the people in your life, frees you to enjoy the gifts another person offers to you. They might not have the gift you demand and expect from them. When you put a block out and don’t accept others as they are, you may never recognize the gift they reach out to hand you. Because your Mother or Father was a certain way, you may think a prospective mate might be that way. Look for the good in people. Let go of your unreasonable expectations in yourself and others.

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t set goals for yourself. It means to stop spending all of your energy resisting the way things are. When you take back your energy, then you make a better pathway for your new and improved life to enter.

I think a lot of unhappiness comes from not enjoying things as they are and wanting something else.

The saying is very powerful and healing: “It is what it is.” Accept it. Make plans to improve the situation in which you live. Love. Reach out in kindness. Look for the good in others. Look for the good inside yourself.

3. Have Faith in Yourself

The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen…Frank Lloyd Wright

  • Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them…Catherine Pulsifer
  • If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning…Gandhi
  • It is not so much what you believe in that matters, as the way in which you believe it and proceed to translate that belief into action…Lin Yutang
  • Believe in yourself and try not to take anything personally…Chris Kattan.
  • Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string…Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Believe in yourself. Your belief will take you to your goal. When you stop believing in your ability to get there, something happens. You crumble. In order to meet your goal, you have to stabilize your belief system so that it gets you where you want to go.

4. Relinquish Control

It’s amazing how much human beings want control of things. When you don’t know how it’s going to turn out, you are afraid to venture into the “unknown.” If you know it’s going to turn out okay, then you are willing to take a chance. When you get your belief system straight, you realize that all events lead you to your goals. They may be interesting detours, but if you reset your beliefs and restate your goals, you will get there. Why do I say that? Because inside your mind, you have an automatic success mechanism. Maxwell Maltz explains this in the Psycho-Cybernetics book. Like airplanes with automatic piloting systems, when you set your goals and believe you can do it, your automatic success mechanism goes to work and takes you to your goal.  If you stop believing, it takes you in the direction of failure. Believe in you and your goals. Believe in you.

5. Exercise – Move your body

When you move your body, you also help your mind. This keeps your emotions from going haywire. It keeps your body in shape. It keeps your mind’s gears moving smoothly. Do what you can. Move to your own rhythm. Dance, jog, walk, sit and move whatever you can. Just move it. You’ll get ideas to solve problems. Your stress levels will decrease. You’ll be healthier. Try it. You’ll like it.

6. See with Different Eyes

It’s possible to get to your goals, you might need new skills. If you’ve lost your zest for your goals, perhaps you need to find a path that’s fun for you.  Look at things differently.  You need to look at the situation with a different eye. Talking with a good friend sometimes opens up possibilities of ways to get there that you have never heard of. New roads can be built to your goal. Build them in your mind. They will take you where you want to go.

7. Celebrate

It is great to celebrate any time and every possible moment in your life.Oprah Winfrey said, “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

Help others celebrate, too. Fill yourself with as much joy as you possibly can. There’s one thing about joy, it is contagious. It spreads from you to another person. Have you ever noticed what happens when one person starts laughing uncontrollably. Oh my goodness! That is such fun. Others who are close to them will also start laughing. Pretty soon, endorphins (good feeling healing chemicals are dancing inside your body and mind. Try it. Here’s a recording of me laughing. I hope you start laughing with me: recording of my laughter. Record a spontaneous laughing session with your whole family.  Record you and two of your friends laughing. Play it back on days when things are tough. It’ll help you remember that good things are coming your way.

  • Have a picnic on your living room floor.
  • Read your favorite book.
  • Call a friend.
  • Sit at the edge of your yard and watch for wildlife.
  • Sit at a window and rejoice that you are comfortable.

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Resources:

My Blog Posts from 2010:

  1. Find Your Laughing Place
  2. Laugh: It’s Healing
  3. Read a Funny Book: Laughter Is Music for Your Body and Soul

Other Resources:

  1. Brainy Quotes.  “Believe in Yourself:” http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/believe_in_yourself.html#8WmP1bXCydDPA7xX.99
  2. Brené Brown.  “The Power of Vulnerability:” http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
  3. Christina Diaz. “Thankful Quotes:” http://www.the-benefits-of-positive-thinking.com/thankful-quotes.html
  4. Darcy Pattison. “Shame, Vulnerability and Hiding:” http://www.darcypattison.com/writing-life/shame-vulnerability-and-hiding/
  5. Diane Wallace, aka GrannySage. “It Is What It Is:” http://www.squidoo.com/it-is-what-it-is
  6. Joshua Clayton http://ezinearticles.com/?How-It-Is-Said,-How-It-Is-Done&id=5684116
  7. Marelisa Fabrega. “Celebrating Life:” http://www.squidoo.com/celebrating-life
  8. Maxwell Maltz, Md. The New Psycho-Cybernetics, edited and updated by Dan S. Kennedy and the Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc. http://www.amazon.com/The-New-Psycho-Cybernetics-Maxwell-Maltz/dp/0735202850/
  9. Think Exist.com. “Thankful.” http://thinkexist.com/quotes/with/keyword/thankful
  10. Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acceptance

Be Specific in What You Ask For


Dear Readers,

I thought I’d share a funny story with you.

At the first of November, I said to myself, I’d like to break the record on my website of 120 reads on February 6, 2011. I kept trying to think of posts that would entice more followers. With the new posts, I ended up increasing several days above 100, but not to over 120.

While I was vacationing in Myrtle Beach, I checked the statistics for my Children’s Liturgy blog. It broke the record with 135 readers on November 26, 2011.

My point is in my mind during November, I visualized over 126 reads. However, I didn’t specify which blog. I just said my blog. So-o-o God answered my prayers and my blog post on Joan’s Children’s Liturgy blog: http://www.joanschildrensliturgy.wordpress.com soared to over 135 readers on November 26 when the most it had before had been 50.

My Never Give Up blog has increased its readership above 100 for 3 different days during December, but none over 120. I’m still working on it. I’ll rephrase my goal: Before January 31, 2012, I have had one or more days with more than 120 readers.

If you’ve had a funny experience where you set your goals, but they weren’t specific enough, please share them with me.

Thanks for reading. Thanks for sharing your insights with me.

Celebrate your sense of humor.

Joan Y. Edwards
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Copyright © 2011 Joan Y. Edwards

Put Dilemmas in Your Stories for a Compelling Punch


“Put Dilemmas in Your Stories for a Compelling Punch” by Joan Y. Edwards

Dilemmas add more tension and compel higher reader interest. Higher reader interest equals more sales. Go for it. Make sure the conflict right before the crisis  situation is a dilemma. It has to be the most difficult decision a character makes in the whole book. It will either make him or break him. What’s the difference between regular conflicts and dilemmas. I did a little reading. My resources are below the article, as well as interspersed throughout the article.

Conflict is the main problem at the beginning of a novel or story. Conflicts can be predicaments, problems that must be solved to get to the goal. Predicament is a condition or situation, specifically, one that is difficult, unpleasant, embarrassing or even sometimes comical. You can have from six to 12 minor conflicts for the main character after the initial change at the beginning.

The difference between a conflict and a dilemma follows: a conflict is the main problem or the problem you find at the beginning of a piece of literature. The perplexing dilemma is the choice of two solutions to the main problem at the climax of a story. Add conflicts beginning at the start of the story and continually raise the stakes. Make the main character keep losing more and more until he gets to the breaking point, until he can no longer avoid the dilemma situation at the climax.  Before the Crisis according to Peder Hill is that black moment when all is lost and danger is at its highest and the goal cannot be achieved.  (Peder Hill Structure and Plot: Dilemmas for the Crisis http://www.musik-therapie.at/PederHill/Structure&Plot.htm)

The hero or main character can’t put off the decision. It’s either do it now or forever be deemed a failure or be killed. Circumstances trap the main character between two major dilemmas. There are two (di Greek prefix that means two) equally unfavorable choices to solve a problem that he can’t ignore.

It will make it where he can’t keep life the same as it was. As my mother used to say, “Old Usta’s Dead.” Life is not the same and you can’t keep it the same. Dilemmas come when there is a conflict between beliefs and/or values. The strict notion of ‘dilemma’ is when we find ourselves with a challenging situation where the possible outcome leads to two equally unappealing choices.

Dwight V. Swain says in his book, Techniques for the Selling Writer, that crisis in a story is when principle collides with self-interest or a situation where the main character feels compelled to follow one of two conflicting beliefs. The main character defies the rules in order to retain his world as he desires it. As he sees it, he can do it. He can accomplish it above all the odds against it. Dilemmas do not present a clear solution and in most cases are unable to be solved, but have to be managed over time towards a resolution.

During the crisis, the only way to survive is to fight or flee fate of these two dilemmas, these two choices. The main character feels compelled to follow conflicting beliefs. He is between a rock and a hard place. As Calhoun says in Amos and Andy, “If I do this, I get in trouble. If I do that, you get in trouble. If I do this other thing, we both get in trouble.”

Are the stakes high enough for your characters? Will they lose a lot because of the decision they make in the dilemmas presented to them. The following words of Jessica Page Morrell really sank into my writing psyche: Are the stakes high and the consequences for failure dreadful?  If not, I believe you need to edit to make the failure more dreadful and more fearful.

At the following link, Donald Maass gives  “3 Key Stakes that Drive Novels.” http://www.writersdigest.com/writing-articles/by-writing-goal/improve-my-writing/3-key-stakes-that-drive-novels

Here’s more help with building higher tension by heightening the stakes: Jessica Page Morrell. “How to Build Tension to Heighten the Stakes.” http://www.writersdigest.com/writing-articles/by-writing-goal/beat-writers-block/how-to-build-tension-to-heighten-the-stakes

I believe that sooner or later when enough things stack up on the main character, he will have to change his belief. It is no longer true in his mind. Therefore, he can’t live with it any longer. He has to take action.

During this moment, the hero draws upon the new strengths or lessons he’s learned in order to take action and bring the story to a conclusion. Hero defies the rules in order to retain his world as he desires it or to create the world as he wants it. First he makes the decision. Then, he takes the final action to bring the story to its resolution. The climax is the action that brings the story to its resolution. Crisis is a point in a story or drama when a conflict reaches its highest tension and must be resolved. Jeff Kitchen says that you have Dilemma, Crisis, Decision and Action, and Resolution in a movie:  Writing a Great Movie: Key Tools for Screenwriting.  This link shows a good outline of the Three Acts for movies that can also be used for novels.

Goals for the Main Character

1. Try the impossible, not capable of occurring. Do the unattainable. Impossible feats – Accomplishing

a. Christine Green.”Impossible Feats – Accomplishing What Can’t Be Done.” http://www.christinegreen.com/2011/07/impossible-feats-accomplishing-what-cant-be-done/.

b. Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku of Idaho. “Attaining the Unattainable” http://www.kituku.com/article_template.php?id=51

c. Greta Christina. “The Impossible Ideals Men Are Expected to Meet.” http://www.alternet.org/story/151344/wealthy%2C_handsome%2C_strong%2C_and_with_endless_hard-ons%3A_the_impossible_ideals_men_are_expected_to_meet

1)  Break the world’s record.

2) Climb Mount Everest.

3) Win a Car Race even though you run out of gas

4) Live despite a flood, earthquake, forest fire

2. Do the forbidden

a. Girl on a boys baseball team.

b. Man 45, in a golf tournament for 50 years old and older.

3. (My Idea) Do the difficult for this particular individual with their strengths, weaknesses, and emotional beliefs.

 1) Honesty is one of Sara’s most revered traits in herself. She prides herself in being honest. Sara wants the job as feature writer for her hometown newspaper. She does 6 different articles to make it to the status they require. Then they ask her to pose as a spy for the FBI and do a report on the police brutality on Hispanics. Her desires to be the feature writer and her moral integrity are bumped together at the same time. Will she change her mind about being the reporter for this newspaper or will she lie to get her job?

2) Selena’s belief is that men are perfect. Men can do no wrong. Enter life experience. Her husband cheats her out of a land deal. He doesn’t put her name on the deed. She doesn’t find out until the land is sold. He is dead. She doesn’t get the land.

3) Jill wants to go to the dance. To go to the dance she has to take a wheelchair or Use a walker.

4) Ted wants to be on a bowling team. He has to ask his enemy if he can try out for the winning team or be on a team that has the lowest bowling scores in the league.

5)Stanley’s brother got a girl pregnant. Stanley has to choose whether to confront his brother or tell his parents.

6) Susan is in an honors class. She sees her best friend copying notes on his arm. The teacher accuses her of copying his paper when she looks at his arm. She has to choose whether to lose her best friend by telling on him or taking the blame for something she didn’t do.

7. Felix the cat always chases Mice and eats them, however, this mouse has a broken leg. He has a choice to eat him without the chase or chase a different mouse and leave a meal untouched.

Sample Predicaments and Dilemmas from Fairy Tales and Other Tales

1. Britannica.com. Dilemma Tale, also called a Judgment Tale,  typically an African form of short story whose ending is either open to conjecture or is morally ambiguous. The readers (the audience) decides the answers to the questions. http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/163532/dilemma-tale

2. Bruno Bettelheim The Uses of Enchantment: The Meaning and Importance of Fairy Tales showing right versus wrong or good versus evil.

3. Peder Hill. “Structure and Plot: Dilemmas for the Crisis.” http://www.musik-therapie.at/PederHill/Structure&Plot.htm

4. Valerie Hoy. Samples of Predicaments in Fairy Tales http://www.valeriehoy.info/writing/sample.php?id=26

Please comment with a sample of a dilemmas in a well-known story or one of your own masterpieces. You can also ask questions about dilemmas or pose your own definitions. I’ll choose a person using random.org who leaves a comment before December 11, 2011 to receive a First Page Critique of a Manuscript. I enjoy reading your comments. They fill me with joy and thankfulness.

Celebrating is part of thankfulness and excitement to help you achieve your publication goals.  Develop unwavering faith.

Even with complications and obstacles, the vision of success in your  mind, the excitement of getting it, your thankfulness, and your action toward it will create the reality for you.

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Copyright © 2011 Joan Y. Edwards

Resources I Used for This Article

1. Britannica.com. Dilemma Tale, also called a Judgment Tale,  typically an African form of short story whose ending is either open to conjecture or is morally ambiguous. The readers (the audience) decides the answers to the questions. http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/163532/dilemma-tale

2. Bruno Bettelheim The Uses of Enchantment: The Meaning and Importance of Fairy Tales showing right versus wrong or good versus evil

3. Christine Green Impossible Feats – Accomplishing What Can’t Be Done http://www.christinegreen.com/2011/07/impossible-feats-accomplishing-what-cant-be-done/.

4. Donald Maass. “3 Key Stakes that Drive Novels.” http://www.writersdigest.com/writing-articles/by-writing-goal/improve-my-writing/3-key-stakes-that-drive-novels

5. Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku of Idaho“Attaining the Unattainable” http://www.kituku.com/article_template.php?id=51

6. Dwight V. Swain. Techniques for the Selling Writer. http://www.amazon.com/Techniques-Selling-Writer-Dwight-Swain/dp/0806111917

7. Educational Leaders.Government.nz. “Problem Solving: Leadership: Dilemmas – Using the Leadership.”

http://www.educationalleaders.govt.nz/Problem-solving/Leadership-dilemmas/Using-the-leadership-dilemmas

8. Greta Christina. “The Impossible Ideals Men Are Expected to Meet.” http://www.alternet.org/story/151344/wealthy%2C_handsome%2C_strong%2C_and_with_endless_hard-ons%3A_the_impossible_ideals_men_are_expected_to_meet

9. Jeff Kitchen. “Writing a Great Movie: Key tools for successful screenwriting.” http://books.google.com/books?id=fL-YT3dAkOIC&pg=PA22&lpg=PA22&dq=dilemma+before+the+crisis+in+a+movie&source=bl&ots=RJSSiuLxZV&sig=_2N0ADWdICsakbYqZRsMZ4ZnD9c&hl=en&ei=_nq4TuuVA4Pe2AWhn_WrBw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2&sqi=2&ved=0CB0Q6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=dilemma%20before%20the%20crisis%20in%20a%20movie&f=false

10. Jessica Page Morrell. “How to Build Tension to Heighten the Stakes.” http://www.writersdigest.com/writing-articles/by-writing-goal/beat-writers-block/how-to-build-tension-to-heighten-the-stakes

11. J. Hoke. Fairy Tales Page (Links to Fairy Tales with Pictures and Text). http://www-ma.beth.k12.pa.us/jhoke/jhwebquest/ftales.htm

12. Peder Hill. “Structure and Plot: Dilemmas for the Crisis.” http://www.musik-therapie.at/PederHill/Structure&Plot.htm

13.The Free Dictionary.com. “Dilemma.” http://www.thefreedictionary.com/dilemma

14. Valerie Hoy. Samples of Predicaments in Fairy Tales http://www.valeriehoy.info/writing/sample.php?id=26

Digital Notes – Post-It Notes and Sticky Notes


Dear Readers,

When I got my new computer, I noticed I had free Sticky Notes software. It’s pretty cool and can come in handy for you.

Things you can do with Sticky Notes for your computer.

You can write down your dentist appointment. You can remind yourself of what you need from the store. You can post your goals.  You can stack them on top of each other, or you can spread them out. Here’s a picture of the Sticky Notes on my computer monitor:

My goals on plain Sticky Notes for Windows 7.

I read on the internet that there was sticky note type software that would let you do more than just sit there like these.

What I learned from downloading several copies of free software – Be Careful

I searched and found at least 10 other brands of small note software for your computer, iPad, and iPhone.  I downloaded a few free ones to compare them for my Windows 7 main computer,  but had problems with the ones I downloaded. You may have better luck. Some were missing parts, so they didn’t work. Others wouldn’t let go of my computer system and close, so I could uninstall them. One had malware on the installation software. Not all free software is like this. I just had this problem with this particular kind – sticky type notes.

What I Like about Post-It Digital Notes

I downloaded the 30 day trial of Post-It Digital Notes by 3M, the company that created the original paper sticky notes. I had no problems installing it. It doesn’t grab my computer and tell me to close it, when it’s already closed. It’s fun, efficient, colorful, and flexible.  After trying it out for a couple of days, I went ahead and purchased it for only $9.99. When I downloaded the purchased software, it installed and didn’t erase the notes I’d written.  I didn’t have to put in a number. It was already done with the installation. Hip Hip Hooray!

1. You can put a bunch of these together for each manuscript: Pitch – Synopsis – Summary; Chapter by Chapter Scenes & Summary; Character’s Name with traits under it; Pictures I found on the internet that looked like I envisioned the character; Research from internet.

2. To show you an idea of what you can do, I created a Memoboard with my writing goals:

Writing Goals Memoboard with Post-It Digital Notes

3. You can email a note to a friend. It shows up as a jpg picture file for them. Of course, if they have the same kind of note software, they can open it up. Change it. Send it back, etc.

4. You can set an alarm. If you have to leave an hour before your dentist appointment, you can set the alarm to go off an hour ahead of time.

5. Copy and paste text from a website and also copy and paste the URL address to bookmark it for your notes.

I hope you enjoyed this post. Good luck with your notes whether they are on paper or on your computer. Have fun with them. Please leave a comment. I’d love to hear from you.

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Joan Y. Edwards

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