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10 Paths to Inner Peace


12 paths to inner peace

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“12 Paths to Inner Peace” by Joan Y. Edwards

The older I get, the more I realize that we human beings want control of ourselves and others. We want control of our environment. Guess what! It’s very tricky.

Inner peace is an absence of mental anxiety! Do you find it difficult to go with the flow? Do you find your inner peace stifled or trampled daily? Do you want to stop things from going the way they seem to be heading? Are you on a path to Crashville?

1. Pray to your creator and Trust in Him. He has a plan for you.

Pray to God and ask him for help. Tell him all of the things that are bothering you. Tell him every single thing that is bugging you and keeping your from being at peace.  Visit your church, synagogue, house of prayer, temple, mosque, etc. I find that when I go to church and pray that I feel a little closer to God.  However, I know that God is with me all the time. It helps me to emotionally be calmer to make a visit to the church.

2. Rest. Meditate. Say Positive Things Aloud and Silently.

Visualize images of beauty and calmness. Play music that calms you. Say good things about yourself. Take time to rest.

I am lovable. I am kind. What I do matters. What I hope for matters. My emotions are real; neither good nor bad; neither right nor wrong.

3. Accept Things as They Are.

What’s odd is that in order to change things, you first have to accept them as they are. For this reason, it’s good to go with the flow. If you’re in a tube going down the Tuckasegee River, I can tell you from personal experience that it’s easier to float downstream if you’re going with the flow.

If you’re walking down a busy sidewalk, it’s much easier to go with the flow – everyone walking on the right hand side. Otherwise, you end up weaving in and out of people and bumping the whole way.

Many times you may have difficulty accepting others as they are. You desperately want to change them. Perhaps that’s why I became a teacher, hoping I could persuade children with problem behaviors to change. I thought that if they were educated with the pros and cons of different types of behaviors and their consequences they would choose healthier, more positive behaviors. But you see, you can’t change other people. Those other people have to change themselves.

It’s nice to have people agree with you every once in a while, it gives you a good feeling of belonging. However, it’s not good to give up your strong beliefs that you know are right to be in agreement with others.

Some people are power hungry…more money…more power. More power, more control over others.

4. Love Yourself and Others. Take time for you.

Peace is being happy with who you are and your circumstances, whatever they might be. I love to hear the scripture that says that God created each of us for a certain purpose. Without us, the world would not have something that it needs to survive.  The name we were given at birth is significant for us. God gave new names to people in the Bible when they came to an aha moment. 

5. Forgive Yourself and Others 

The greatest gift you can give yourself and other people in your life is your forgiveness. Each day you carry anger around, it makes a negative impact on your health. Lighten your load. Take steps to let someone you’ve been angry with for hours, days, months, or years off the hook. Realize that they are human, just like you. And that just like you, they are not perfect. If there has been anger on both sides of the fence, your releasing your anger and allowing them to be as they are, may give them the freedom to change, too.

6. Perform Three Simple Tasks

Make a list of things that need to be done for your home surroundings or for yourself. Then choose three activities and do them. It’s amazing how getting things done makes you feel empowered. You realize that you can control doing a few things. It also frees your mind to think of solutions. It frees your mind to think of other things.

7. Research to Find Alternative Beliefs and Solutions to the Problems at Hand

Look up information about your problem online, in books, or through talking with others. Sometimes through explaining the situation to another person, you come to the solution in your mind. 

8. Watch Funny Movies and Television Shows. Read Funny Books.

Laughter is healing. It releases endorphins that help you feel calmer on the inside. It releases the negative emotions: sad, mad, powerless feelings that seem to be stuck. Even fake laughs help loosen the grip these emotions have on you. Laughter is like oil for your car. It’s essential to keeping you going.

9. Walk. Exercise. Breathe.

Exercising the body releases endorphins that help you feel calmer on the inside, too. Walk inside your house or outside your house. Walk around the outside of your house. Ride an exercise bike. Walk to the corner and back. Walk around the outside of your house. 

10. Eat the Right Foods for You. Eat Healthy.

Eat. Drink plenty of water. Too many carbs, too much sugar, too much caffeine!  Look out for these and other foods that can put you in jeopardy. They can steal your joy.  Try to stay in the Goldilocks section. Not too much. Not too little. Just right.

11. Focus on What You Want

What you focus on is what you get. What you spend your time, thoughts, and spoken words on is what you’re going to get. Accept that the opposite could happen. Accept that the bad thing that you’re so afraid of could happen. But then also accept and focus on what you want to happen. Then take the necessary steps to start the ball rolling in that direction.

12. Meet with a friend. Call for Help. 

We need social connections to survive. Being with other people gives us endorphins, too. If you’re overwhelmed, call for help. Ask a friend. Join a support group. Ask for professional help if you need it. Everyone may need counseling at some time in their life. I went through counseling one time in my life. Everyone needs help once in a while. You don’t have to go through this alone. You’re not alone. Others care about you.  

Resources

  1. Daily Mind. “How to Go with the Flow:” http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/go-with-the-flow/
  2. Free Dictionary. “Definition of Peace: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/peace 
  3. Huffington Post. “10 Kind Things to Tell Yourself Every Day:”  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/10/kind-things-to-tell-yourself_n_4570376.html
  4. I am Fearless Soul. “5 Steps to Finding Peace within Yourself:” https://iamfearlesssoul.com/5-steps-to-finding-peace-within-yourself-and-how-to-keep-it/
  5. Learning Mind. “Effective Ways to Find Peace within Yourself:” https://www.learning-mind.com/effective-ways-to-find-peace-within-yourself/
  6. Mountain Crisis Services. “34 Things You Should Know about Yourself:”  http://www.mountaincrisisservices.org/domestic-violence/34-things-you-should-kno
  7. Operation Meditation. “5 Tips to Finding Peace within Yourself.” http://operationmeditation.com/discover/5-tips-to-finding-peace-within-yourself/
  8. Psychology Today. “Smashing the Brain Blocks: 4 Ways to Go with the Flow Even When It Seems Impossible.” https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/smashing-the-brainblocks/201606/4-ways-go-the-flow-even-when-it-seems-impossible
  9. Thesaurus. “Go with the Flow:” http://www.thesaurus.com/browse/go-with-the-flow
  10. Tiny Buddha. “8 Tips to Feel at Peace with Yourself.” https://tinybuddha.com/blog/8-tips-to-feel-at-peace-with-yourself/
  11. Wikihow. “Go with the Flow:” https://www.wikihow.com/Go-With-the-Flow
  12. Wikihow. “How to Release Endorphins:” https://www.wikihow.com/Release-Endorphins
  13. Your Life, Your Voice. “101 Positive Things to Say to Myself:” http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx
  14. Zen Habits. “12 Practical Steps for Learning to Go with the Flow:” https://zenhabits.net/12-practical-steps-for-learning-to-go-with-the-flow/

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Is the Desire for Control in Your DNA?


Desire for control

“Is the Desire for Control in Your DNA?” by Joan Y. Edwards”

Is the desire for control getting the best of you. Is it embedded in your DNA? A couple of months ago, my friend Barbara Walker, who helped me take care of my Mother from 2002 until Mother died in 2009, said, “Control is part of our DNA.”

When Barbara said that I laughed and laughed. I said, “Barbara, I think you’re right about that.”

Is the desire for control a human thing? Is the craving of power to control an addiction? Who really has control?

Do people crave money because they think it means power to control? Or is it power they crave and crave money because they believe it will help them maintain control.

I don’t offer you the answers. I’m sure you’ve figured out a few of your own answers.

What is DNA?

DNA is the fundamental and distinctive characteristics or qualities of someone, regarded as unchangeable. Hereditary material in every cell in a person’s body. It’s your unique genetic code in a molecule called a genome.

DeoxyriboNucleic Acid,

  • “diversity is part of the company’s DNA”

What is control?

  • Control is the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events.
  • Control is the ability to determine the behavior or supervise the running of. “he was appointed to control the company’s marketing strategy”
  • Control means to be in charge of, run, manage, direct, administer, head, preside over, supervise, superintend, steer, command, rule, govern, lead, dominate, hold sway over, be at the helm
  • Informally, control means to head up, be in the driver’s seat, run the show as in the sentence: “one family controlled the company since its formation.”

To me when I feel everything is out of control, it means it’s out of my control. I feel helpless. I feel hopeless. That’s not a very empowering feeling.

However, when I think about how God has helped me in the past, then I get a little hope built in that everything is going to be okay. When you’re stressed to the hilt, start naming people, things, and situations you are thankful for.

It’s bad, but I’m thankful it isn’t worse.
I’m thankful that I have shoes on my feet.
I’m thankful that I have food in the refrigerator.
I’m thankful for God’s mercy on me.

I’ve heard myself and others say things like this, “I can’t handle this.” We have to ultimately change that thinking to, I can handle it with God’s help. I can handle it if I look at all the possible solutions. I’m thankful that I usually can figure out a different way to do something.

Take positive action. Action makes you feel like you’re making progress towards solving the problem. Take a long walk. Meditate. Pray. Wash clothes. Wash the dishes.If you’re still stressed out, here are a few blog posts that may help you:

Good luck with letting go of wanting control or at least accepting that not all things are in our control.

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Inner Motives Lead to Conflicts of Characters


“Inner Motives Lead to Conflicts of Characters”  by Joan Y. Edwards

Show the inner motives of why your character might  do things in your stories. What drives them to do what they do? What drives them to think as they think? What drives them to believe as they believe?

The motivations listed below are  ones that all human beings experience as outlined in the book The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin.

They might be motivated to do things because their goal is:
Control
Approval/acceptance/
Security
Survival
Separation-different-special-time alone
Oneness-united-bonded-togetherness

They might be motivated to do things because their fear is:
Slave/No Control/Out of control/Confusion/Disorder
Disapproval/failure
Insecurity
Death
Separation
Oneness

What they are afraid of will come to meet them. This is the conflict.
What they definitely don’t want…what they keep saying over and over again…no I don’t want that.  It’ll come. This is the conflict.
If they are negative, they’ll receive negative. This is the conflict
If they are positive, they’ll receive positive.  Finding their way out of these circumstances is their challenge.

Until they have an “ah hah” moment and change their way of thinking about it, their beliefs about it, they’ll continue to get the same kind of response, the same kind of outcome, the same results.

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Does the Weather Control Your Happiness?


Is your mind controlled by the weather?

If it’s sunny outside does, that mean you’re happy?

If it’s raining outside, does that mean you’re unhappy?

I think we let outside circumstances control our moods.

What can we do about it?

Try to be upbeat no matter what the circumstances are around you. Try it for 15 minutes. Try it for 24 hours. Try it for a lifetime.

I am going to be happy no matter what happens to me in the next 15 minutes. I am going to be happy no matter what kind of weather is outside.

Being happy helps us be healthier. They have proven that laughter heals your body. Good thoughts heal your body. God has blessed us with a wonderful brain and a loving soul.

Many days I can not seem to be happy. Perhaps that happens to you, too.  That’s okay. If you get into that situation, accept yourself. Accept the circumstances. Thank God for 20 things. You’ll start getting happy again.

1. I’m thankful for my family.

2. I’m thankful for my friends.

3. I’m thankful for my education.

4. I’m thankful for my faith in God and humanity.

5. I’m thankful for my car.

6. I’m thankful for my home.

7. I’m thankful for my computer.

8. I’m thankful for my self-published children’s book, Flip Flap Floodle.

9. I’m thankful I’ve sold over 200 copies of Flip Flap Floodle.

10. I’m thankful that my husband has been able to keep his sugar levels normal or below.

11. I’m thankful that the doctors and staff at Haywood Medical Center were able to help my husband get his sugar level down from 1000  in November.

12. I’m thankful for all the times I’m able to laugh at my mistakes.

13. I’m thankful for all the people who have used my devotionals, puzzles, and skits from my website.

14. I’m thankful that Liturgical Publications Inc hired me to write devotionals for their Growing with the Gospel series.

15. I’m thankful for all the people who have helped me in my lifetime.

16. I’m thankful for all the people who helped me care for my Mother.

17. I’m thankful for refrigerators and freezers.

18. I’m thankful for all of you who read my blog and send me emails.

19. I’m thankful for my imagination.

20. I’m thankful my parents had me.

That’s my list of 20. Now I’m wearing a big smile.

Write your own list and smile along with me.  Being happy is good for your health and good for your soul. Let it be snowy and cold outside, but warm inside your heart.

 Being happy will keep you going towards your goals. Being happy will keep you healthy so you can achieve your goals. Don’t give up. Never give up.  Look at things differently. Smile.

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