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21 Book Marketing Tips for Authors


21 marketing tips for authors

“21 Book Marketing Tips for Authors” by Joan Y. Edwards

Writing a book is a wondrous feat and getting it published is another great accomplishment. Selling your book is the next step and it is a very interesting endeavor today. You have to plan and take action. To make money; you have to spend money and/or time. You must be creative. Choose things to do that are fun for you. I suggest you work on three of them at a time. Choose two that you can do without any problem and one with a little challenge to it. Reward yourself for each step you complete.

I’ve read through many online sources and books about marketing to sell both Flip Flap Floodle and Joan’s Elder Care Guide.

I listed the resources I’ve found helpful. These marketing tips are ones I’ve used personally, witnessed other authors use them successfully, or plan to take action to make them a reality myself.

1. Place a profile on About.me. Mark Coker recommends this as a way to put all of your information in one place that many people look first. Place an About Me file on your website and blog.

2. Make a Facebook Author Page and a Facebook Personal profile page.

3. Twitter  – Open a Twitter personal account. Post about things relating to the book you’re writing. Follow and retweet other people’s tweets relevant to your favorite topics.

4. Set up pre-orders for your book. Helps build tension so people anticipate the big release date. After the release of your first book, as soon as you get the second book ready, do a pre-order for it. On the last page of your first book, let people know about your second.

5. Create a Video Trailer for your book.

Joanna Penn. “How to Create a Book Trailer:” http://www.thecreativepenn.com/2011/01/07/how-to-create-a-book-trailer/

Sandra Warren. “Book Trailers Made Easy:” http://sandrawarrenwrites.blogspot.com/2016/01/book-trailers-made-easy.html

6. Send out a News Release before your book launch. Put your press releases on your website. PRlog sends out free press releases (https://www.prlog.org/)

Sample Press Release

Rob Bignell. “Press Release: Advice on Day Hiking with Children:” https://www.prlog.org/11593433-new-book-provides-valuable-tips-advice-on-day-hiking-with-children.html; 

Stephen King. “Book Release American Vampire:” http://stephenking.com/promo/american_vampire/press_release/

7. Obtain 50 reviews of your books on Amazon, GoodReads, and Barnes & Noble. Use 50 as your top goal but be happy and celebrate each review you get. According to Brooke Warner Huffington Post, you need 50 reviews for Amazon to give you special notice. Be willing to give people who commit to review your book  a free PDF, Kindle, or paperback copy for their review.

If it’s an ebook on Kindle and you belong to GoodReads, Kindle asks you to review the book when you finish it. It posts it on both Amazon and GoodReads for you at the same time. 

It’s exciting to watch your book ranks after your book is released. To find statistics about your book sales and book rankings:

Sign into Amazon’s Author Central. It gives you the number of books sold. http://www.amazon.com/authorcentral

Check the listing of Best-Selling Authors from top down: https://www.amazon.com/author-rank

Ranks Amazon Book Sales  – website and app. https://www.novelrank.com/; 

I have 14 reviews on Joan’s Elder Care Guide and 18 for Flip Flap Floodle. So I need a lot more reviews to hit the lucky number of 50 reviews for each. If you’d be willing to do a review of either book for me, please let me know. I’ll send you a paperback copy. I’ll be willing to do a book review for you, too.

Put whole reviews or snippets of reviews with a book cover image and a link to purchase your book on your blog, website, emails, Facebook, Twitter, and your favorite social media.

8. Create Slide Presentation for your website. Linked-In has SlideShare where you can create and share slides about you, your writing, and your books. This SlideShare can be embedded on other people’s websites or blogs. You can even share it on your personal website or blog, too. To do the Linked-In SlideShare, go to Robert Sisson’s step by step directions: https://www.slideshare.net/RobertSisson/how-to-upload-your-powerpoint-slides-to-slideshare?qid=e74460bd-5446-41d3-894b-37cffb952803&v=&b=&from_search=11

9. Blog Tour – Ask 10 or more bloggers to interview you as a guest. Stagger the interviews. Have one each day for a week or two weeks. Include one review or snippets from 3 reviews with an image of your book cover and a link to purchase your book.

10. Book Blitz on the day of your book release – Ask 10 or more bloggers to put a copy of the specialized Book Blitz notices (format similar to a news release) on their blogs.

Sample Book Blitz:

Joan’s Elder Care Guide: Empowering You and Your Elder to Survive by Joan Y. Edwards

New Book? Spread the Word with a Blogging Book Blitz

11. Have a Book Launch Facebook or Twitter party

Lori Taylor. “10 Tips for a TweetWorthy Twitter Party:” http://lorirtaylor.com/top-10-tips-for-a-tweetworthy-twitter-party/

Lynne Hinkey. “Virtual Book Party” https://writerswin.com/virtual-book-party/

Katherine Mayfield. “Hosting a Book Launch Party on Facebook:” http://fundsforwriters.com/hosting-a-book-launch-party-on-facebook/

12. Create a book club study guide or teacher’s study guide for your book. Rob Bignell says this is a good way to entice book club members to buy copies of your book.

Sample Study Guide

“Charlotte’s Web Teacher’s Guide:” https://www.scholastic.com/teachers/unit-plans/teaching-content/charlottes-web-teachers-guide/

13. Make and distribute promotional materials: bookmarks, postcards, and business cards. You can print a coupon on the back of some of your business cards that say. If you’d like a free book, ask me for details. Willing to do a review – Free copy of book or something similar. Ask me: How can I get a free copy of your book?

14. Place a copy of you book in waiting rooms. Rob Bignell says to write a note inside your book that says, “Please leave for others to enjoy.”

15. Get your book into at least 2 local bookstores. If you or your publisher does not have a return book policy, you may want to see if local bookstores or businesses related to the subject of your book would sell your books on consignment. If your publisher has a return book policy, it will be easier to get your books on the shelves in a store.

16. Have a book signing event. Do a reading or a presentation. Mingle with the people in the store. 

17. Have contests to win copies of your book or give away copies of unpublished writing.

18. Do a joint venture advertising campaign with 2-4 other authors with similar subjects or genres or who live in your area or travel together to different states.

19. Ask your readers to write, call, and visit your local library and ask them to order your book. Make sure your ISBN number is on your business card or on your website.

20. Write articles for organizations, newspapers, blogs, ezine articles, HubPages. Rob Bignell says they pay freelance writers for writing. Perhaps they will allow a byline and add the title of your book, a book cover image, and a link to purchase it.

21. Set up a Google Alert for you book title, book subject, and your name. They will email you daily or weekly articles that contain the words you designate. This may help you find blogs or magazines with articles about your subject. Then you can pursue writing for them, doing a guest blog, etc.

Jessica Knapp. “How to Set Up a Google Alert and Why It’s a Good Idea:” https://www.bloggingbasics101.com/how-to-set-up-a-google-alert-and-why-its-a-good-idea/

RESOURCES

  1. Advisory HQ. “Top Free Press Release Distribution: https://www.advisoryhq.com/articles/top-free-press-release-distribution/
  2. Authors’ Community. “Marketing Your Books:” http://authorscommunity.net/category/marketing-your-books/
  3. Blog: Books on the Knob. “List of free books, coupons for Amazon:” http://blog.booksontheknob.org
  4. Book Enthusiast Promotions. “Release Day Event:” http://www.bookenthusiastpromotions.com/release-day-event/
  5. Bookmarket.com. Reputable Mailing Lists. http://www.bookmarket.com/lists.htm
  6. Brandon Cornett. “54 Tips for Postcard Marketing Success:”
    http://www.bookmarket.com/postcardmarketing.htm
  7. Caitlin Muir. “89 Plus Book Marketing Ideas That Will Change Your Life:” http://www.authormedia.com/89-book-marketing-ideas-that-will-change-your-life/
  8. Carolyn Johnson-Howard. The Frugal Book Promoter: How to get nearly free publicity on your own or partnering with your publisher (The HowToDoItFrugally Series) ebook https://www.amazon.com/Frugal-Book-Promoter-partnering-HowToDoItFrugally-ebook/dp/B005G5L3DC/
  9. Carolyn Johnson-Howard. How to Get Great Book Reviews Frugally and Ethically: The ins and outs of using free reviews to build and sustain a writing career:  https://www.amazon.com/Great-Reviews-Frugally-Ethically-HowToDoItFrugally-ebook/dp/B01MQCKRF5/
  10. Daniel Kehrer. “10 Tips for Postcard Marketing Success:” http://www.bizbest.com/10-tips-for-postcard-marketing-success/
  11. Daniel Newman. “Here Are 12 Must-Use Apps for Marketers:” https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/246047
  12. Danny Iny. “7 Book Marketing Lessons for the Self-Published Author:” https://www.inc.com/danny-iny/7-book-marketing-lessons-for-the-self-published-author.html
  13. David Gaughran. Let’s Get Visible: How To Get Noticed And Sell More Books (Let’s Get Publishing Book 2):  https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Get-Visible-Noticed-Publishing-ebook/dp/B00CPQ6YYI/
  14. Erin Bowman. Publishing Crawl. “How to Support an Author Beyond Buying Their Book:” http://www.publishingcrawl.com/2015/04/20/how-to-support-an-author-after-buying-their-book/
  15. Erin Entrada Kelly, Book Publicist. “YOU DID NANO. NOW WHAT?” http://www.smithpublicity.com/2015/12/you-did-nano-now-what/
  16. Debbie Ridpath Ohi. “Want to support an author’s or illustrator’s new book but can’t afford to buy it?” http://inkygirl.com/inkygirl-main/2015/6/19/want-to-support-an-authors-or-illustrators-new-book-but-cant.html
  17. Derek Haines. “What’s the Best Way to Promote My Self-Published Book:” https://www.justpublishingadvice.com/whats-the-best-way-to-promote-my-self-published-book/
  18. Diana Urban. “119 Book Marketing Ideas That Can Help Authors Increase Sales:” https://insights.bookbub.com/book-marketing-ideas/
  19. D. Jean Quarles. “5 Tips to Writing Your Author Bio:”  http://www.writersonthemove.com/2014/09/5-tips-to-writing-your-authors-bio.html
  20. Enticing Journey Book Promotions. “Release Day Blitz:” http://www.enticingjourneybookpromotions.com/p/release-day-blitz.html
  21. https://www.thebookdesigner.com/2016/08/authors-boost-book-marketing-with-these-5-apps/
  22. https://www.thecreativepenn.com/2010/03/27/marketing-your-first-book-graham-storrs/
  23. Greg Scowen. “A Few Indie Book Reviewers:” http://www.gregscowen.com/a-few-indie-book-reviewers/
  24. HubPages. Search for writing gigs. HubPages. 
  25. Huffington Post. “The Top 10 Things All Authors Should Know About Amazon:” https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brooke-warner/the-top-10-things-all-aut_b_6744386.html
  26. “Indie Authors: 17 Book Marketing Tips to Sell More Books:” https://www.amarketingexpert.com/indie-authors-17-book-marketing-tips-to-sell-more-books/
  27. iuniverse. “10 Tips for Marketing Your Book:” https://www.iuniverse.com/Resources/Book-Marketing-Self-Promotion/10TipsForMarketingYourBook.aspx
  28. J.C. Saucedo. “20 Book Marketing Tips and Tactics for Self-Published Authors:” https://blog.placeit.net/20-book-marketing-tips-tactics-self-publishing-authors/
  29. Jen Malone. Writers’ Rumpus. “Part 1: How to Help an Author (Beyond Buying the Book):” http://writersrumpus.com/2014/01/03/how-to-help-an-author-beyond-buying-the-book-part-one/
  30. Jen Malone. Writers’ Rumpus. “Part 2: How to Help an Author (Beyond Buying the Book):” http://writersrumpus.com/2014/02/07/how-to-help-an-author-beyond-buying-the-book-part-two/
  31. Jen Malone. Writers’ Rumpus. “Part 3: How to Help an Author (Beyond Buying the Book): http://writersrumpus.com/2014/03/07/how-to-help-an-author-beyond-buying-the-book-part-three/
  32. Jessica Knapp. “How to Set Up a Google Alert and Why It’s a Good Idea:” https://www.bloggingbasics101.com/how-to-set-up-a-google-alert-and-why-its-a-good-idea/
  33. Joanna Penn. “How to Create a Book Trailer:” http://www.thecreativepenn.com/2011/01/07/how-to-create-a-book-trailer/
  34. Joanna Penn. How to Market a Book Third Edition: https://www.amazon.com/Market-Book-Third-Joanna-Penn/dp/191210587X
  35. Joan Y. Edwards. (Book Blitz) “Joan’s Elder Care Guide: Empowering You and Your Elder to Survive by Joan Y. Edwards:” https://joanyedwards.wordpress.com/2016/05/13/joans-elder-care-guide-empowering-you-and-your-elder-to-survive-by-joan-y-edwards/
  36. Joan Y. Edwards. “New Book? Spread the Word with a Book Blitz:” https://joanyedwards.wordpress.com/2016/03/14/new-book-spread-the-word-with-a-book-blitz/
  37. Josh Funk. “How Can You Help an Author?” https://papajfunk.wordpress.com/2015/09/24/how-can-you-help-an-author-im-so-glad-you-asked/
  38. Josh Funk. “How to Buy a Picture Book without Buying a Picture Book:” https://papajfunk.wordpress.com/2015/08/27/how-to-buy-a-picture-book-without-buying-a-picture-book/
  39. Kate Tilton. “Bloggers Resources (contains blogger reviewers):” http://katetilton.com/bloggers/
  40. Kimberley Grabas. “71 Ways to Promote and Market Your Book:” http://www.yourwriterplatform.com/promote-and-market-your-book/
  41. Lori Taylor. “10 Tips for a TweetWorthy Twitter Party:” http://lorirtaylor.com/top-10-tips-for-a-tweetworthy-twitter-party/
  42. Mark Coker.  Smashwords Book Marketing Guide – How to Market Any Book for Free (Smashwords Guides 2)Kindle Edition: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004XR57PE/
  43. Melinda Brasher. “Strategies to Get Book Reviews:” http://www.writersonthemove.com/2014/04/strategies-to-get-book-reviews.html
  44. Monique Danao. “Four Simple Ways Free Lance Writers Can Find Gigs Fast:”  http://writersweekly.com/this-weeks-article/find-new-writing-gigs-fast
  45. National Pen Company. Personalized, colorful, distinctive, smooth writing promotional pens, stylus, magnets: http://www.pens.com
  46. New York Book Editors. “5 Tips for Marketing Your YA Novel:” https://nybookeditors.com/2017/08/5-tips-for-marketing-your-ya-novel/
  47. Nonfiction Author Association. “How to Get Book Reviews – 50 Resources to Generate Book Reviews:” https://nonfictionauthorsassociation.com/how-to-get-book-reviews-50-resources-to-generate-book-reviews/
  48. Pam Perry. “25 Tested Marketing Tips for Self-Published Authors:” http://www.pamperrypr.com/25-tested-marketing-tips-for-self-published-authors/
  49. Press Release Log. https://www.prlog.org/
  50. Publicity Insider. “Special Report: The Ultimate PR & Publicity Secret:” http://www.publicityinsider.com/freesecret.asp
  51. Rachel Abbott. “Reviews: The Good, the Bad, and the Scams:” http://rachelabbottwriter.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/reviews-the-good-the-bad-and-the-scams/#
  52. Richard Ridley. CreateSpace blogger. “Social Media Swap:” https://forums.createspace.com/en/community/community/resources/blog/2015/02/02/social-media-swap
  53. Rob Bignell. 7 Minutes a Day to Promoting Your Book [Kindle Edition]: https://www.amazon.com/Minutes-Day-Promoting-Your-Book-ebook/dp/B00B4XD6FI
  54. Sandra Warren. “Book Trailers Made Easy:” http://sandrawarrenwrites.blogspot.com/2016/01/book-trailers-made-easy.html
  55. Sandra Warren. “Tag Team Marketing – Authors Helping Authors (contains additional marketing information related to book stores, retail stores, and organizations):” http://sandrawarrenwrites.blogspot.com/2016/03/tag-team-marketing-author-helping.html
  56. Sandy Smith Publicity. “101 Book Marketing Ideas to Promote Your Book:” http://www.smithpublicity.com/101-book-marketing-ideas-promote-book/
  57. Scholastic. Charlotte’s Web Teacher’s Guide: “Charlotte’s Web Teacher’s Guide:” https://www.scholastic.com/teachers/unit-plans/teaching-content/charlottes-web-teachers-guide/
  58. Smith Publicity. “How to Hold a Social Media Contest:” http://www.smithpublicity.com/2015/12/how-to-hold-a-social-media-contest/
  59. Tim Grahl. “Book Marketing Plan – The Definitive List:” https://booklaunch.com/book-marketing-checklist/ 
  60. Valerie Peterson. “Book Signings and Book Tours – A Reality Check for Authors:”http://publishing.about.com/od/BookPublicity/fl/Book-Signings-and-Book-Tours-A-Reality-Check-for-Authors.htm
  61. Valerie Peterson. “Part 1 – Getting Your Book into the Bookstore:” http://publishing.about.com/od/BookAuthorBasics/a/How-To-Make-Booksellers-Love-You.htm
  62. Valerie Peterson. “Part 2- Make Booksellers Love You:” http://publishing.about.com/od/BookAuthorBasics/a/Make-Booksellers-Love-You-P2.htm
  63. Valerie Peterson. “Part 3- Getting Your Book Into a Local Bookstore:” http://publishing.about.com/od/BookAuthorBasics/fl/Getting-Your-Book-Into-a-Local-Bookstore.htm
  64. Vistaprint.com. Business cards, post cards, posters, car signs, etc. http://www.vistaprint.com
  65. Writing Career. “Publishers and Magazines Ask for Stories. Help writers get writing gigs:” https://writingcareer.com/
  66. Zairmail.com. Direct Mailing lists, post card templates. http://www.zairmail.com/

COMMENT

Never Give Up
Live with Enthusiasm
Celebrate Each Step You Take

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Please check out my books:
Flip Flap Floodle, Will this little duck’s song save him from Mr. Fox?
Joan’s Elder Care Guide published by 4RV Publishing

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Happy 8th Blogaversary


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“Happy 8th Blogaversary” by Joan Y. Edwards

It’s hard to believe that it has been 8 years since I started this blog. Oh my goodness! Thank you for reading and following my blog. I have had fun getting to know each of you who have responded in the comment area. I smile each time I receive an email saying that one of you subscribed to my blog. Those things mean a lot to me. They tell me that what I’ve written means something to you the reader. That’s an awesome experience and a great privilege and honor.

I started it on October 9, 2009. At the time, I didn’t know what I was going to write. I just knew that I wanted to write articles to inspire people to keep reaching for their goals and to never give up.

My focus has been inspiration, education, laughter for everyone.

For writers, I’ve placed special emphasis on articles about writing, revising, and marketing a manuscript. I developed PubSubbers plan with detailed steps to get a manuscript ready for submission. PubSubbers and Week 1 have received more than 2,000 views. I researched publishers who accept unsolicited manuscripts and listed them in a blog post.

Pub Subbers
Week 1
Week 2
Week 3
Week 4

The last two years, I’ve added a focus on adding inspiration, education, and laughter for artists and illustrators because as I’ve needed a little help and encouragement myself as I’ve worked on the illustrations for my chapter book, Larry, the Terrifying Turkey.  It will have at least 15 illustrations – one for each chapter. I have 7 draft illustrations done. To celebrate today, I thought I’d share a draft of the cover. It’s not etched in stone. It’s a draft. I am self-publishing it when I complete the illustrations.

turkey chasing young girl

DRAFT Cover or Larry, the Terrifying Turkey Copyright 2017 Joan Y. Edwards. The book will be 5.5 x 8.5 inches, so the final cover will be narrower.

Selling Pitch/Blurb for Book Cover:  Larry, the Terrifying Turkey, Chapter Book, Ages 6-8, Grades 1-3

Scarred by her mother’s pet turkey and taunted by her third grade classmates, Sara Brown searches for a way to get back at him. Will she face the turkey square in the gobbler or will her parents ground her until she is twenty-one after she wrecks her mother’s new car?

I now have 422 subscribers. Thank you for all of you who have subscribed to my blog.

If you haven’t subscribed, please do. Subscribers get an email notice each time I post a new blog article. New subscribers also get 3 free gifts:

  • Never Give Up image
  • 20 Affirmations for Writers
  • Ten Time Savers for Writers and Illustrators

Here are the top 12 blog posts, each has over 2,000 views:

  1. 40 Publishers Who Accept Unsolicited Manuscripts
  2. 22 Literary Agents Who Are Looking for You
  3. How Many Words Should Your Sentences Contain?
  4. What Is the Purpose of Dialogue in Your Story?
  5. 7 Questions to Make Sure Your Plot Has Believable Consequences
  6. Family Sewing Projects – Jedi Robes and Princess Leia Ponchos
  7. What Are Easy Readers?
  8. Put Universal Conflict, Theme, and Emotions in Your Story
  9. Prayers for Writers and Patron Saint of Writers
  10. What Is Your Story’s Premise? Editors Want to Know
  11. About Me
  12. Twelve Ways to Get Over Disappointment

Do you have a favorite post from my blog? I hope you’ll share it with me.

To celebrate my 8th Blogaversary, I offered a choice of prizes for the lucky person chosen by Random.org who left a comment on this blog between October 9 and October 17…8 days. I decided to give a prize to TWO winners instead of one. Here are the names of the ten wonderful, delightful, fantastic people who left a comment. 

  1. Sandra Warren
  2. Claire Iannini
  3. Gretchen Griffith
  4. Dr. Bob Rich
  5. Linda Martin Andersen
  6. Maureen Crites
  7. J.Q. Rose
  8. Joan Reid
  9. Carol Federlin Baldwin
  10. Cat Michaels

Random.org chose two winners for me – #5 and #2. So, Linda Martin Andersen and Claire Iannini you may choose one of the four choices below for your prize for  winning the 8th Blogaversary giveaway. 

  1. A copy of Flip Flap Floodle.
  2. A copy of Joan’s Elder Care Guide
  3. A critique of 5,000 words.
  4. An image of the winner or their favorite animal saying, “I Never Give Up.” 

Please email me with your choice at joanyedwards1 @ gmail.com.

COMMENT

Believe in You
Never Give Up

Books to Enjoy
Flip Flap Floodle, Will this little duck’s song save him from Mr. Fox?
Joan’s Elder Care Guide published by 4RV Publishing. A great gift for a friend who is caring for a loved one.

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10 Paths to Inner Peace


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12 Paths to Inner Peace image  Copyright 2017 Joan Y. Edwards

“12 Paths to Inner Peace” by Joan Y. Edwards

The older I get, the more I realize that we human beings want control of ourselves and others. We want control of our environment. Guess what! It’s very tricky.

Inner peace is an absence of mental anxiety! Do you find it difficult to go with the flow? Do you find your inner peace stifled or trampled daily? Do you want to stop things from going the way they seem to be heading? Are you on a path to Crashville?

1. Pray to your creator and Trust in Him. He has a plan for you.

Pray to God and ask him for help. Tell him all of the things that are bothering you. Tell him every single thing that is bugging you and keeping your from being at peace.  Visit your church, synagogue, house of prayer, temple, mosque, etc. I find that when I go to church and pray that I feel a little closer to God.  However, I know that God is with me all the time. It helps me to emotionally be calmer to make a visit to the church.

2. Rest. Meditate. Say Positive Things Aloud and Silently.

Visualize images of beauty and calmness. Play music that calms you. Say good things about yourself. Take time to rest.

I am lovable. I am kind. What I do matters. What I hope for matters. My emotions are real; neither good nor bad; neither right nor wrong.

3. Accept Things as They Are.

What’s odd is that in order to change things, you first have to accept them as they are. For this reason, it’s good to go with the flow. If you’re in a tube going down the Tuckasegee River, I can tell you from personal experience that it’s easier to float downstream if you’re going with the flow.

If you’re walking down a busy sidewalk, it’s much easier to go with the flow – everyone walking on the right hand side. Otherwise, you end up weaving in and out of people and bumping the whole way.

Many times you may have difficulty accepting others as they are. You desperately want to change them. Perhaps that’s why I became a teacher, hoping I could persuade children with problem behaviors to change. I thought that if they were educated with the pros and cons of different types of behaviors and their consequences they would choose healthier, more positive behaviors. But you see, you can’t change other people. Those other people have to change themselves.

It’s nice to have people agree with you every once in a while, it gives you a good feeling of belonging. However, it’s not good to give up your strong beliefs that you know are right to be in agreement with others.

Some people are power hungry…more money…more power. More power, more control over others.

4. Love Yourself and Others. Take time for you.

Peace is being happy with who you are and your circumstances, whatever they might be. I love to hear the scripture that says that God created each of us for a certain purpose. Without us, the world would not have something that it needs to survive.  The name we were given at birth is significant for us. God gave new names to people in the Bible when they came to an aha moment. 

5. Forgive Yourself and Others 

The greatest gift you can give yourself and other people in your life is your forgiveness. Each day you carry anger around, it makes a negative impact on your health. Lighten your load. Take steps to let someone you’ve been angry with for hours, days, months, or years off the hook. Realize that they are human, just like you. And that just like you, they are not perfect. If there has been anger on both sides of the fence, your releasing your anger and allowing them to be as they are, may give them the freedom to change, too.

6. Perform Three Simple Tasks

Make a list of things that need to be done for your home surroundings or for yourself. Then choose three activities and do them. It’s amazing how getting things done makes you feel empowered. You realize that you can control doing a few things. It also frees your mind to think of solutions. It frees your mind to think of other things.

7. Research to Find Alternative Beliefs and Solutions to the Problems at Hand

Look up information about your problem online, in books, or through talking with others. Sometimes through explaining the situation to another person, you come to the solution in your mind. 

8. Watch Funny Movies and Television Shows. Read Funny Books.

Laughter is healing. It releases endorphins that help you feel calmer on the inside. It releases the negative emotions: sad, mad, powerless feelings that seem to be stuck. Even fake laughs help loosen the grip these emotions have on you. Laughter is like oil for your car. It’s essential to keeping you going.

9. Walk. Exercise. Breathe.

Exercising the body releases endorphins that help you feel calmer on the inside, too. Walk inside your house or outside your house. Walk around the outside of your house. Ride an exercise bike. Walk to the corner and back. Walk around the outside of your house. 

10. Eat the Right Foods for You. Eat Healthy.

Eat. Drink plenty of water. Too many carbs, too much sugar, too much caffeine!  Look out for these and other foods that can put you in jeopardy. They can steal your joy.  Try to stay in the Goldilocks section. Not too much. Not too little. Just right.

11. Focus on What You Want

What you focus on is what you get. What you spend your time, thoughts, and spoken words on is what you’re going to get. Accept that the opposite could happen. Accept that the bad thing that you’re so afraid of could happen. But then also accept and focus on what you want to happen. Then take the necessary steps to start the ball rolling in that direction.

12. Meet with a friend. Call for Help. 

We need social connections to survive. Being with other people gives us endorphins, too. If you’re overwhelmed, call for help. Ask a friend. Join a support group. Ask for professional help if you need it. Everyone may need counseling at some time in their life. I went through counseling one time in my life. Everyone needs help once in a while. You don’t have to go through this alone. You’re not alone. Others care about you.  

Resources

  1. Daily Mind. “How to Go with the Flow:” http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/go-with-the-flow/
  2. Free Dictionary. “Definition of Peace: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/peace 
  3. Huffington Post. “10 Kind Things to Tell Yourself Every Day:”  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/10/kind-things-to-tell-yourself_n_4570376.html
  4. I am Fearless Soul. “5 Steps to Finding Peace within Yourself:” https://iamfearlesssoul.com/5-steps-to-finding-peace-within-yourself-and-how-to-keep-it/
  5. Learning Mind. “Effective Ways to Find Peace within Yourself:” https://www.learning-mind.com/effective-ways-to-find-peace-within-yourself/
  6. Mountain Crisis Services. “34 Things You Should Know about Yourself:”  http://www.mountaincrisisservices.org/domestic-violence/34-things-you-should-kno
  7. Operation Meditation. “5 Tips to Finding Peace within Yourself.” http://operationmeditation.com/discover/5-tips-to-finding-peace-within-yourself/
  8. Psychology Today. “Smashing the Brain Blocks: 4 Ways to Go with the Flow Even When It Seems Impossible.” https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/smashing-the-brainblocks/201606/4-ways-go-the-flow-even-when-it-seems-impossible
  9. Thesaurus. “Go with the Flow:” http://www.thesaurus.com/browse/go-with-the-flow
  10. Tiny Buddha. “8 Tips to Feel at Peace with Yourself.” https://tinybuddha.com/blog/8-tips-to-feel-at-peace-with-yourself/
  11. Wikihow. “Go with the Flow:” https://www.wikihow.com/Go-With-the-Flow
  12. Wikihow. “How to Release Endorphins:” https://www.wikihow.com/Release-Endorphins
  13. Your Life, Your Voice. “101 Positive Things to Say to Myself:” http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx
  14. Zen Habits. “12 Practical Steps for Learning to Go with the Flow:” https://zenhabits.net/12-practical-steps-for-learning-to-go-with-the-flow/

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St. Catherine of Bologna and St. Luke, Patron Saints of Artists


 

“St. Catherine of Bologna and St. Luke, Patron Saints of Artists” by Joan Y. Edwards

Sometimes you need to call in for reinforcements to believe more in yourself and your abilities to do what you believe God wants you to do in life. Talking with God and asking him for help is a great plan. Also, looking for others in the present time or from the past to discover how they coped with life may help inspire you to keep on going.

In case you are like me and in need of a little encouragement in your artistic skills, I discovered the patron saints of artists for you to study and gain inspiration from their lives and experience.

St. Catherine of Bologna, Patron Saint of Artists

St. Catherine of Bologna – Feast Day March 9th
Abbess & Painter (1413-1463) 
Catherine was born in Bologna, Italy. She dabbled in writing, poetry, dancing, and Latin studies, but her forte was painting. She is a patron saint of painters and those who suffer from doubt.  In 1432 together with other young women of Ferrara, she founded a monastery of the Order of Poor Clares founded by St. Francis of Assisi and St. Clare of Assisi.

 

Saint Luke, the Evangelist Patron Saint of Artists

St. Luke, the Evangelist – Feast Day October 18th

The Roman Catholic Church and other major denominations venerate him as Saint Luke the Evangelist and as a patron saint of artists, physicians, surgeons, students and butchers. He wrote one of the four Gospels. Saint Luke painted a picture of Mary, the Mother of Jesus.

Catholic Culture.org says that the flying ox is a symbol of St. Luke the Evangelist, anticipated by Ezekiel. The ox, recognized as the animal of sacrifice, applies to St. Luke because his Gospel emphasizes the atonement made by Christ’s sacrifice of himself on the Cross.

References for St. Catherine of Bologna:

  1. St. Catherine of Bologna.org. “St. Catherine of Bologna:” http://www.stcatherineofbologna.org/86
  2. “St. Catherine of Bologna – Patron of Artists:” https://www.youtube.com/F3-wQVpWCr4
  3. “Saint Catherine of Bologna Patron of Artists Live Drawing & Prayer:” https://youtu.be/acnu-C2NEB4 
  4. “St. Catherine of Bologna:” https://youtu.be/-wKY-xYTrAc
  5. Wikipedia. “Catherine of Bologna:” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catherine_of_Bologna

References for St. Luke, the Evangelist, Writer of one of the Gospels.

  1. Catholic Saints Info. “St. Luke:” http://www.catholic-saints.info/patron-saints/saint-luke.htm
  2. SlowTrav. “St. Luke, Patron Saint of Artists:” http://www.slowtrav.com/blog/annienc/2008/05/st_luke_patron_saint_of_artist.html
  3. Walter Hayward Pitman. “Saint Luke, the Patron Saint of the Worshipful Company of Painters, otherwise Painter Stainers:” https://catholicsaints.info/saint-luke-the-patron-saint-of-the-worshipful-company-of-painters-otherwise-painter-stainers-by-walter-hayward-pitman/
  4. Wikipedia. “Guild of Saint Luke:” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guild_of_Saint_Luke
  5. Catholic Culture.org. “Winged Ox:” https://www.catholicculture.org/culture/library/dictionary/index.cfm?id=37196

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Plant Success Seeds for Your Next Conference Now


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“Plant Success Seeds for Your Next Conference Now" by Joan Y. Edwards

You have the magical seeds needed for your success. Your inner mojo or magical power is there for you to use 24 hours a day.  Look for it. Plant it. Nourish it. To help you grow in confidence, you need to grow in skills and abilities. Plant these seeds for your success at your next conference.

 

Before the Conference

  1. Believe in you. Activate this belief. BELIEVE IN YOU AND YOUR ABILITIES. That's the first seed for success. Believe in you. You can do all things necessary for your success.
  2. Set your goals. What skill do you most want to improve? Attend the workshops that will help you improve that skill. I hope that by attending a conference, you’ll learn a new skill or marketing technique that inspires you to reach your goals. You have what it takes for success. You may have to look through different eyes, through a different window to see it.
  3. Visit the web pages of three presenters that interest you. If they have a website, read the about me section. Check out their books at your local library or on Amazon or Barnes and Noble.
  4. If you have specific questions for presenters, write them down on 3×5 cards and ask them at the conference during the workshops. If you don’t get a chance to ask them in person, most handouts or websites give contact information so you can write and ask them later.
  5. Get business cards with your name, address, phone number, email address, website, and blog. Many people put an image and link to their publishedbooks on the back. Usewww.VistaPrint.comwww.Gotprint.com, or local print shop. You can also create business cards on your computer.
  6. Writers: Prepare a postcard, business card, bookmark. Use your book titles and pitch blurbs. Get these giveaways printed at www.VistaPrint.com,www.Gotprint.com, or other print shop. You can also create them by hand or with your computer.Illustrators: Prepare a portfolio of 10-20 of your illustrations. Make sure these are the kind of illustrations that you enjoy creating. Prepare a postcard with a sample illustration on it. If you have illustrated a published book, put it on one side and put a different story's illustration on the back of the postcard. Share with people you meet at the conference. Also send one of your postcards to the art directors for publishing companies represented at the conference.r illustrators. Get bookmarks and or postcards printed atwww.VistaPrint.comwww.Gotprint.com, or other print shop. You can also create them by hand or on your computer.
  7. Buy a new spiral notebook with a bright colorful design, a composition book with a black and white cover, or a sketch book.This way all of your notes are in one place. You can put it in front of your computer when you get home, and transfer your handwritten notes to your computer. You can add information from handouts by scanning them into your computer, or by typing what you want to remember from the handouts.
  8. Writers: Buy two pens that are dependable and write just the way you like a pen to write. Put them in your pocketbook to take with you. Illustrators: Take a pencil, a ruler, and a white eraser.
  9. Write a pitch for three of your manuscripts. Print out your pitches on 3×5 cards, 4×6 inch cards, or plain 8.5 x 11 printing paper. Carry two copies of each pitch with you to the conference. Put one copy in a folder and the other in your pocketbook. Practice giving your pitch in front of a mirror. Use eye contact. Memorize it. If your pitch is longer than on 3×5 index card, it is too long.
  10. Take comfortable clothing to wear in your favorite colors to keep your spirits high. Take a sweater or blazer, in case the air conditioning is too cool for your inner thermostat.If you’re hot, you can take off the blazer. A good work attire for writers/illustrators is a pair of jeans, a shirt, and a blazer. Linda Rohrbough says that you want the editors to think you just left your computer to meet with them. Be comfortable. If you feel better being all dressed up, dress up. It’s important for you to be comfortable and feel distinguished. Wear comfortable shoes.
  11. Check your laptop, iPad, or iPhone. Charge its battery. Bring your charger to the conference.
  12. Copy the  full manuscripts of your Works in Progress and other pertinent information you may need for the conference to a portable drive or flash drive for your laptop or use a cloud data holder. If you use Dropbox, you can put your manuscripts in it and access it from your iPad or iPhone or other electronic devices. It allows you to see your manuscript from all devices. Check it out before you leave home to make sure it works.
  13. Check out the directions to the conference. Find the restaurants that are located close to the conference that serve the kind of food you can eat.

At the Conference

1.Take notes.

Take notes using your new spiral notebook or composition book or take notes on your laptop or other device.

2.Hand out business cards.

Hand out business cards to everyone with whom you talk. Ask for their businesscards, too. This will give you resources to check after the conference. The more you do this, the more comfortable and natural it will be for you. Make a goal of handing out at least 10-30 cards and getting an equal number in exchange.

3.Talk to people sitting beside you in a workshop.

Do you feel lonely and out of touch with people? Talk to the people who sit beside you in the workshops. Exchange names, email addresses, and business cards with them. Here are possible questions to start your conversation:

“What are you writing?”

“Are you in writing group? Is it online or face-to-face?”

“How do you find time to write (illustrate)?”

“Do you (draw) write best in the morning or at night?”

4.  If you meet a publisher or agent, ask them questions about themselves and their projects.

If you happen to meet an agent or editor in the elevator or at lunch, remember he/she is human, like you. Ask one of these questions or one of your own:

“What is your favorite project right now?”
“How do you know when a book is right for you?”
“What’s your advice for writers(illustrators)?”

5. Writers: Be ready to answer questions about your writing with a pitch.

After your question for an editor or agent, there is a great possibility he/she will ask you, “What kind of writing do you do?” This is a perfect lead in for your pitch. Hold your head high. Look the editor/agent in the eye. Pretend he’s your best friend and tell him your pitch.

Illustrators: Be ready to answer questions about your illustrating. Tell people three things you like to draw and if your like to portray humor, the dark side, nature, etc.

6. Take a short walk for exercise in between sessions.

7. Get plenty of sleep.

8. Eat healthy fruits, vegetables, and proteins. Drink plenty of water. This will keep you alert and focused.

9. Enjoy yourself and learn as much as you can.

10. List twenty things for which you are thankful each morning before you get out of bed.

11. Thank the presenters and the organizers.

12. If you are inspired by a book you hear about or see in the bookstore at the conference, buy it or borrow it from your public library.

After the Conference

1. Sleep, if you’re tired.

Accept yourself and others as you are. Focus on what you want. Be thankful for what you have. Be grateful for where you are. Put the fun back into your writing.

2. After you’ve rested, read and organize your notes from each workshop.

Edit your notes and add information from your handouts. You can scan pertinent information from the handouts into your computer.  Write at least three major things you learned from each workshop. You can write down more details if you want.

3. Make a top ten list of things that you learned at the overall conference.

4. Write/Revise Your Writing/Illustrating Goals

After this information soaks into your mind, body, and spirit, write/revise three writing/illustrating goals using the skills and information you learned. (Be patient with yourself.)

5. Writing Skill/Genre Goals

a) Read ten books in your chosen genre and three books on the craft of writing and/or illustrating.

b) Revise your favorite manuscript and submit it to an editor or agent.

c)  Revise 3 of your favorite illustrations. Choose one to create a new postcard and send to a prospective publishing company.

6. Marketing Goals

a) Learn a new technology.

b) Submit manuscripts/sample illustrations to different agents and/or editors often.

c) Join or create a critique group.

c) Join my Pub Subbers Yahoo Group, a group to encourage you to submit your manuscript/portfolio often (monthly if possible). To join, write me and tell me why you would like to join at joanyedwards1@gmail.com. Members postsuccesses, ask other members for help. etc. Members receive automated reminders for the weekly steps to get your work ready for submission.

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d) Prepare a book presentation for schools/organization.

e) Prepare a proposal to present a workshop for a writing conference.

f) Prepare a pitch for a manuscript. Go from a page summary and then focus on the words to hook readers. Keep shortening your pitch: 200-100-50-25 words. The ultimate goal is a pitch that is 140 characters long (approximately 25 words) that fits in Twitter. If you have all these different lengths, you will have a pitch to use in your cover letter, proposal, and for the rave blurbs for the back cover of yourbook. Your pitch is the magnetic tool that will entice people to buy your book.

7. Networking Goals

a) Create a website and/or blog.

b) Join a critique group.that focuses on genres you write or illustrate.

c) Give book presentations/workshops for schools and organizations

d) Create an author/illustrator page on Facebook and post news of your publishing journey.

e) Create a Twitter Account.Tweet your blog posts and your publishing news.

f) Visit the websites of three people who shared a business card with you.  Email them. Here are possible points to include in your email. Remind them of how you enjoyed talking with them. Thank them for sharing a resource. Congratulate them on their manuscript, portfolio, or book. Compliment them for being brave if they read their story at open mike. Thank them for giving you a new way to look at a problem.

g) Make a list of your followers on Facebook and Twitter. When you get your book published, they will be helpful in spreading the word about your book.  Interact with at least 25 of them on a regular basis.

Resources

  1. Amy Bishop. http://www.projecteve. "Do I Still Need Business Cards for Networking?" http://www.projecteve.com/do-i-still-need-business-cards-for-networking/
  2. Deborah Shane. "What to Do Before Attending a Conference?" https://smallbiztrends.com/2014/04/what-to-do-before-attending-a-conference.html
  3. Kristen Lamb, “Getting the Most Out of Writing Conferences:” http://warriorwriters.wordpress.com/2010/04/07/getting-the-most-out-of-writing-conferences/.
  4. Margo L. Dill, “Writers Conferences: Five Reasons Why You Should Go NOW, and How to Get the Most for Your Money:” http://www.wow-womenonwriting.com/13-FE-MargoDill.html/.
  5. Marita Littauer, “Four Keys for Writers ConferenceSuccess:” http://www.right-writing.com/conference-keys.html/.
  6. Travelle. "How to Prepare for a Conference:"http://www.huffingtonpost.com/travelle/how-to-prepare-for-a-conf_b_8413424.html
  7. Yvonne Russell, “Getting the Most out of a Writers’ Conference:” http://www.growyourwritingbusiness.com/?p=47/.

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Are You Thinking Straight? Check Your Beliefs.


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“Are You Thinking Straight? Check Your Beliefs.” by Joan Y. Edwards

I was searching through papers from my teaching days yesterday, looking for pictures that might need scanning, when I came across a paper I’d saved with hints for clear thinking from Dr. Albert Ellis, a famous pyschologist in the 1950’s.  He designed a therapy called Rational Therapy. Dr. Ellis believed that Rational Therapy was more direct, efficient, and effective than pyschotherapy.  Later they changed the name of his therapy to Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy.

Dr. Ellis said there are 12 false thoughts or beliefs that are prevalent with people that lead to problems in our thinking. If our thinking is faulty, our emotions may be out of whack, too. I’ll bet you’re familiar with at least one of these faulty statements.  Dr. Ellis wrote them as we-statements; I changed them to I-statements. I added what I believe are healthier ways of thinking for each of them.

(Hint for Writers: You can use one or two of these erroneous thinking statements as flaws for your character(s) in your stories.

  1. Faulty way of thinking: I must be loved by everyone and everyone must approve everything I do. Healthier way of thinking: It’s okay if some people don’t love me and don’t approve of everything that I do.
  2. Faulty way of thinking: I must be thoroughly competent, adequate, intelligent, and achieving in all possible respects. Healthier way of thinking: I don’t have to be thoroughly competent, adequate, intelligent, and achieving in all possible respects.
  3. Faulty way of thinking: Certain acts are wrong or wicked or villainous, and people who perform them should be severely punished. Healthier way of thinking: Certain acts are wrong or wicked or villainous and people who perform them will be punished by God. It is not my job to judge them. Judge their actions, not them as a person. The authorities who govern the area where they live are in charge of  judging and punishing them for their actions, if deemed necessary by the law.
  4. Faulty way of thinking: It is a terrible catastrophe when things are not as I would like them to be. Healthier way of thinking: Things can be okay even when things are not as I would like for them to be.
  5. Faulty way of thinking: Unhappiness is the result of external events and happenings that are forced on us and that we have no control over. Healthier way of thinking: Happiness is the result of my internal beliefs and thoughts about external events and happenings. I can control the thoughts and beliefs on which I focus.
  6. Faulty way of thinking: We should be greatly concerned about dangerous and fearful things and must center our thinking on them until the danger is passed. Healthier way of thinking: I should be concerned about dangerous and fearful things, but I should center my thinking on surviving the dangers and facing my fears.
  7. Faulty way of thinking: It is easier to avoid difficulties and responsibilities than to face them. Healthier way of thinking: It is easier to face difficulties and responsibilities than to avoid them.
  8. Faulty way of thinking: We need a person stronger than ourselves to rely on. Healthier way of thinking: I am as strong a person as I need to be to do what I need to do. I don’t need someone stronger than me to rely on. God will help me.
  9. Faulty way of thinking: Because something greatly influenced us in the past, it must determine our present behavior;  the influence of the past cannot be overcome. Healthier way of thinking: Even if something greatly influenced me in the past, it does not have to determine my present behavior. The influence of the past can be overcome.
  10. Faulty way of thinking: What other people do is vitally important to me, and I should make every effort to change them to be the way I think they should be. Healthier way of thinking: Sometimes what other people do is vitally important to me. I should accept them as they are. If their behavior harms you in some way, explain how you would prefer for them to act. Realize that they may or may not do it. Behavior is a choice.
  11. Faulty way of thinking: There is one perfect solution to every problem, and if it is not found, the result will be terrible. Healthier way of thinking: There is more than one solution with good results to every problem.
  12. Faulty way of thinking: I have virtually no control over my emotions; I am their victim and cannot help how I feel. Healthier way of thinking: If I change my beliefs and thoughts, I can change my emotions. I am a victor; not a victim.

Resources

  1. Ann Jorn. Psychcentral.com. “Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy:”
    https://psychcentral.com/lib/rational-emotive-behavior-therapy/
  2. Famous Psychologists. “Albert Ellis:” http://www.psychologistanywhereanytime.com/famous_psychologist_and_psychologists/psychologist_famous_albert_ellis.htm
  3. Smart Recovery.org. “Basics of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy:” http://www.smartrecovery.org/resources/library/For_Family_Volunteers_Professionals/basics-of-rebt.pdf
  4. Good Therapy.org. “Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT):” http://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/rational-emotive-behavioral-therapy

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“Don’t Tell God How Big Your Problem Is; Tell Your Problem How Big Your God Is” – Author Unknown


Don’t Tell God How Big Your Problem Is; Tell Your Problem How Big Your God Is.”
…Author Unknown

Many times during my life, I wish I had been familiar with this saying: “Don’t tell God how big your problem is, tell your problem how big your God is.”

In his homily during a February 12, 2017 weekday Mass at St. Matthew Catholic Church in Charlotte, NC, Fr. Casmir Maduakor from Nigeria told us: “Don’t tell God how big your problem is, tell your problem how big your God is.”

Today I’m reminding you that your God is bigger than any problem you have now or ever will have. Trust that He is going to bring GOOD out of every problem situation you ever have. Tell your problem how big your God is. It will crumble before your very eyes. Watch a solution show up. See your problem disappear. 

In the year 2000, when I was driving Mother from Delaware to Charlotte, NC after they repaired her left hip, I couldn’t get her back in the car. She had gotten out but was walking like Tim Conway as the Oldest Man  or Mr. Tudball on the Carol Burnett Show

She walked for ten minutes and moved two feet. So I had to call for help. I called to a man on the sidewalk in front of the car, “Sir, sir. Would you help me, please?”

He said, “How can I help you?”

“I got my Mother out to go to the restroom, but she’s not moving very fast and doesn’t have any energy. I need to get her back in the car. I have a blanket. If you could pull her from this side to the other on her blanket, I would appreciate it very much. She’s limp and can’t pull herself.”

So I sat Mother down on her blanket and he pulled her to the left side of the car. He stopped and said, “Is this far enough?”

I said, “No. Her feet are hanging out the door.”

He smiled and said, “Then I believe I need to pull her a little farther.” And he did. Then he put a pillow behind her head and shut the door.

When Mother’s feet were inside the door, I covered her with another blanket, and closed the other door. 

I thanked the man and asked him if I could give him a hug. He said, “Yes.” So I walked around the car to him and gave him a big hug. But it was me who needed the hug. The man told me I was welcome and headed on his own path.

There were many times when I was caring for Mother that God sent someone to help me. My problems disappeared. 

Believe and it will be given to you.
Ask and you shall receive.
Trust that God will hear your voice and help you.

I pray that you always have the help you need.

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