Reblog: “The Kindest Thing You Can Do for Yourself in 2015” by Martha Beck O Newsletter 3/1/15
In the 1970s, when the phrase “be your own best friend” made its way into the zeitgeist, I was mildly confused: I thought friendship involved, you know, more than one person. Then I grew up and realized that most of us are more than one person. As we figure out how we fit in socially and learn how to tailor our behavior to various situations, we end up with several—often wildly dissimilar—versions of ourselves.
For a long time, my own being housed a bustling community of judges, critics and doomsday prophets who conspired to put me through hell. One day I realized that if I wrote down all the negative things I said to myself and showed the resulting document to the police, they’d issue a restraining order against me on my own behalf. But then I figured out that if I could become my own worst enemy, I could also become my own best friend. I developed a method for doing exactly that, and now I’m going to share it with you.
My method for self-befriending centers on empathic listening. It requires that a friendly aspect of your psyche converse with the part that most needs support.
Go to the following link for the rest of the story! You will absolutely love it. Read more: http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/Martha-Beck-Be-Your-Own-Best-Friend
Martha Beck’s latest book is The Martha Beck Collection: Essays for Creating Your Right Life, Volume One (Martha Beck Inc.).
I hope this helps you as much as it did me.
Believe in You
Be a Good Friend to Yourself
Thanks for reading!
Joan Y. Edwards