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Focus on What You Want


Focus on what you want

Focus on What You Want
Copyright © 2013 Joan Y. Edwards

“Focus on What You Want” by Joan Y. Edwards

Your brain searches the world for experiences to make true what you think and say. The thoughts and words you give attention to creates the world you want.

Have you ever noticed when your parents told you. “Don’t run.
What did you do? You probably ran, as swiftly as you possibly could.

Tell your children to: Walk. Walk. Walk.

When someone says, “Don’t worry,” the first thing you do is “Worry.”

Tell your friends to relax and be at peace.

Focus on what you want. Put the thoughts and words into a positive mode.

  • If you have the flu, which way will get well the quickest?

a. When you think and talk about how miserable you are to everyone as many hours as possible

b. When you think and talk little about your ailment.

c.  When you think and envision yourself well and happy.

  • If you have very little money, which way will get you the most money?

a. talk and think about how you don’t have enough money

b. talk and think about how you”ll never be able to get enough money for rent and food.

c. talk and think about how you’ve got enough money for everything you need and want

  • Which will get your children to make better grades in school?

a. talk and think about how many low grades they have.

b. talk and think about how many high grades they have.

d. talk and think about how many high grades their relatives and friends make.

Have you ever noticed what happens when you talk about your problems constantly? Do they keep happening over and over again? Do they become self-fulfilling prophecies?

Maxwell Maltz, author of Psycho-Cybernetics, says that our minds are the best goal-steering mechanisms in the world. Set a goal in your thoughts, words, and beliefs. Your mind takes you there. It works like the automatic pilot on an airplane. If you veer off a little, it self-corrects. Your mind works like that. You set a goal in your mind and your brain searches the world for things to make what your thoughts, words, and your beliefs correct. It focuses its attention on making you right.

Science Foundation reports that we have over 12,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day and over 80% of our thoughts are negative. That means we may have as many as 40,000 negative thoughts a day.  Out of every 10 thoughts, 8 of them are negative. Ouch! That hurts doesn’t it?

Can you change these words to make it a more positive statement for the person thinking them?

  • There’s never a parking place for me.
  • I always get sick at Christmas time.
  • I’ll never get that promotion.
  • I always get caught by red lights on the way home.
  • I never have time for a cup of coffee.
  • I’m always late for work.

Try changing the words to what the might really want. Here are a few suggestions:

  • I will get a cup of coffee today.
  • I will get 3 green lights in a row on the way home.
  • I’ll find a parking place close to the store.

Harbor good thoughts. Don’t focus on what you fear. Focus on what you want to happen. Focus on what you want to own. Focus on having an abundance of all you want and need.

Suppose you have 55,000 thoughts a day, you may not be able to control every thought. You can choose what thoughts you dwell on.

Have you ever noticed that when something bad happens to you, you run a video tape of it over and over again in your mind. Push the stop button. Don’t replay it again. Change the vision in your mind. Run a new videotape in your mind. Run one that has a happy ending. The goal you want to reach.

If you seem to be in a rut, listen to your favorite music, read your favorite scripture, write down affirmations to repeat aloud when you start the negative thoughts. Negative thoughts create negative feelings. Music will change your feelings and therefore change your thoughts.  Pray for what you want. Believe in what you want.

Here are five great quotes to get you going in the direction of your dreams and goals:

  1. Thought is the key to your success — and thoughts start from a single source…your attention. For increased health, happiness, and success, a change in your attention is essential…your attention influences every moment of your life.
    ―Bjorn Secher
  2. “Get going. Move forward. Aim High. Plan a takeoff. Don’t just sit on the runway and hope someone will come along and push the airplane. It simply won’t happen. Change your attitude and gain some altitude. Believe me, you’ll love it up here.”
    ― Donald J. Trump
  3. “When you concentrate your energy purposely on the future possibility that you aspire to realize, your energy is passed on to it and makes it attracted to you with a force stronger than the one you directed towards it.”
    ― Stephen RichardsThink Your way to Success: Let Your Dreams Run Free
  4. “Thoughts Become Things… Choose The Good Ones!”
    ― Mike Dooley
  5. “You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”
    James Allen

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Please leave a comment. I’d love to hear what helps you focus on what you want. How do you keep the good thoughts rolling?

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards

Copyright © 2013 Joan Y. Edwards

Resources

  1. Athena Staik, Ph.D. “How Conscious Attention Effects Positive Change in the Brain, Part 1:” http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2011/04/the-power-of-conscious-attention-in-effecting-positive-change-to-your-brain-part-1/
  2. Atena Staik, Ph.D. “Conscious Attention and Emotion – Sculpting Neural Changes in the Brain, Part 2:” http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2011/04/how-conscious-attention-sculpts-neural-change-in-the-brain-with-emotion/
  3. Bob Crawford. “How to Change Your Life by Changing Your Thoughts:” http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Change-Your-Life-by-Changing-Your-Thoughts&id=5232132
  4. Bob Proctor. You Were Born Rich. http://www.amazon.com/You-Were-Born-Rich-Proctor/dp/1920909028/
  5. Chloe Park. “6 Tips to Manage Your Wandering Mind:” http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3987/6-Tips-to-Manage-Your-Wandering-Mind.html
  6. Gary Wonning. “Pay Attention to Your Thoughts:” http://ezinearticles.com/?Pay-Attention-to-Your-Thoughts&id=7292639
  7. George Dvorsky. “Managing your 50,000 daily thoughts:” http://www.sentientdevelopments.com/2007/03/managing-your-50000-daily-thoughts.html
  8. Glenda Thorne, Ph.D. and Alice Thomas, M. Ed. “Attention:” http://www.cdl.org/resource-library/articles/attention2.php
  9. James Allen. As a Man Thinketh. http://www.amazon.com/As-Man-Thinketh-James-Allen/dp/1612930220/
  10. Jennifer Hawthorne. “Change Your Thoughts:” http://www.jenniferhawthorne.com/articles/change_your_thoughts.html
  11. Maxwell Maltz. Psycho-Cybernetics, A Way to Get More Living Out of Life. http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758/
  12. Tina Unique Faith. “Pay Attention to Your Attention!” http://sta.rtup.biz/profiles/blogs/pay-attention-to-your
  13. Wallace D. Wattles. The Science of Getting Rich. http://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Wallace-D-Wattles-Including/dp/1612931057
  14. Wikipedia. “Attention:” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention
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14 Responses

  1. Great post, thank you. I was with someone who wanted to focus on my past a great deal and now that I am free of that, I find I am so positive. I’m able to do so much.

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    • Dear Kate,
      Thank you for reading my blog and for writing a comment. I’m glad that you are free of focusing on the past. Surrounding yourself with people who accept you as you are now is very healing. When you and others accept yourself as you are, it has a calming effect. Then you feel empowered to change the things you want towards your goals. I am very proud of you. May you reach all of your goals and be surrounded by loving and accepting people.

      Never Give Up
      Joan Y. Edwards

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      • Beautiful words, Joan. Thank you

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        • You are very welcome.

          Celebrate you.
          Never Give Up
          Joan Y. Edwards

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  2. I agree wholeheartedly with your post, Joan. Having an optimistic outlook on life, no matter how bad things seem, can lead to great things.

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    • Dear Juliana,
      Thanks for reading my post and for leaving a comment. I’m glad you agree with my post. You are right, having an optimistic outlook, no matter how bad things seem, can lead to great things.

      Celebrate you and your writing,
      Never Give Up
      Joan Y. Edwards

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  3. You’re the best!

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    • Dear Sharon,
      Golly Gee. That’s a nice thing to say. Thanks for reading my blog. A special thanks for giving me such a sweet compliment.

      Celebrate you
      Never Give Up
      Joan Y. Edwards

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  4. Thanks for posting this, Joan…I am going to make it a point to read it EVERY SINGLE DAY!!
    It gives you reason to believe that…ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!!!

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    • Dear Karen,
      Thanks for writing. You’re welcome for my posting this. You’re right, anything is possible. Enjoy being your sweet self. The more you say positive things about yourself, the more positive things surround you.

      Never Give Up
      Joan Y. Edwards

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  5. Joan,

    Thanks for an upbeat blog about focusing on the positive. I enjoyed it.

    When people ask how my husband is doing as he recovers from health issues, I have learned to thank them for praying for him and tell them that their prayers are making a difference. I try not to dwell on details that suck me into a tailspin of depressing thoughts. It’s so hard to climb back out of. Who needs that? Not us!

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    • Dear Linda,
      Thanks for writing. You’re welcome for the upbeat blog about focusing on the positive. Your response to people when they ask how your husband is doing is indeed very positive. It’s a reply that keeps you from spinning down into all the negatives. I admire you for the love and care you give for your husband and the way both of you focus on the positive. You focus on what you want.

      Celebrate you and all you do to help others.

      Never Give Up
      Joan Y. Edwards.

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      • Thanks so much for your kind and loving response.

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        • You are very welcome.

          Never Give Up
          Joan Y. Edwards

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