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Does Your Anger Leave You Sizzling?


Does your anger leave your sizzling or help you toward your goal? Chances are if you are sizzling with anger, you need to do stress relievers so you can think. If you’re sizzling, this means you are in emotional overdrive. All your oxygen and blood is going to your muscles for fight or flight…the brain is not in control.

Change what you are doing. Go to a different place. Write out all your feelings on a piece of paper or in a journal. Run in place for 10 minutes. Take a nap.

Write down all the beliefs that got you where you are now. Write down all the beliefs you would need to get you out of the place where you are now.

List 5 reasons to be happy the situation is not worse than it already is.

Do something productive and positive to help your outlook on the situation. The situation may actually be the same. What will have changed is the way you’re perceiving the situation.

When you are sizzling, you are viewing the situation as the end of the world. When you are calm and clear-thinking, you may see that it definitely isn’t the end of the world, and that you can do something to change it. You cannot change other people.  However, the only person you have even the smallest amount of control is yourself.  You can ask people to do certain things or not to do certain things, but ultimately it’s their choice, not yours to make. You don’t want control of other people. Having control of them means you are totally responsible for their actions. I can’t handle myself sometimes. I definitely don’t need to be responsible for others, too.

My mother, Ethel D. Meyer, told me some words that were very wise: Don’t ask a person a YES or NO question unless you are ready to accept either answer.

The times that I’ve asked people a question that was a yes or no answer and I thought I was ready to accept either answer and I wasn’t,  brought me the most tears in my life. Now that is humanity. Humanity steps in and we are not able to do what we would like to do. We don’t have what we want.  We start to sizzle.  Sizzle, steam, and sizzle.

Accept yourself and your situation as it is. Chances are there’s nothing you can do to change the past. Plan a way to change your attitude. Get rest. Get exercise. Read resources with different choices. Talk to and listen to others and find out what they have done that works in a similar situation. The Voice of Experience can save a lot of heartaches.

Pray. Play. Pray.

Say the “Our Father.”

Play. Read a funny book. Watch a funny movie. Play a game of solitaire. Draw a picture. Dream of how you want things to be. Look for ways to achieve your goal.

Say the “Our Father” again. He knows your wants and needs. Jesus said, “Ask and you shall receive.” He gives you what you need.  What you want may not be what you really need.

Now that your brain is in control and not your emotions, you can make plans to change your actions and aim them towards meeting your goal of what you want.

TAKE ACTION to change the situation for the better.  ACTION is what calms the inner boiler and puts the sizzle into positive energy and a good feeling. You have taken a lemon and made lemonade, you’ve formed an item of beauty to replace one of ugliness and bitterness.

If you look at yourself in the mirror while you are sizzling and after you have taken your clear thought out action, you will sense an undefeatible sense of accomplisment and pride.  You will notice that bit of God in you blossomed and shined in your face. You are healthier because you are not carrying around all that anger. You dissolved it and created a plan for a sense of accomplishment,  acceptance, and self-respect.  Be thankful to God. Be thankful for yourself and your  de-Sizzling anger actions.

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4 Responses

  1. Joan,

    What a sweet tribute to your mom. She was very wise indeed. You have wisdom of your own. Thanks for sharing it.

    I guess after you stop sizzling, anger can make you more determined than ever to reach a goal. At least that’s one positive side-effect. Still, it’s best to find a way to get ourselves under control. God is good at helping with that.

    Linda A.

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    • Dear Linda, Thanks for commenting. I’m glad you enjoyed reading my blog. Thanks for saying I have wisdom of my own. That’s true it can make you even more determined to reach your goal and being determined to reach your goal can help you work through the anger and choose steps to get you there. Do something good for yourself today!

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  2. “My mother, Ethel D. Meyer, told me some words that were very wise: Don’t ask a person a YES or NO question unless you are ready to accept either answer.”

    I’ve heard this before…but needed to hear it again. Thank you to you AND your sweet mama! 🙂

    hugs,
    Donna

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    • Dear Donna, Thanks for your comments. I’m glad you liked Mother’s saying. She told me that when I was having a hard time handling someone’s NO that I definitely had wanted to be a YES. My mother, Ethel D. Meyer, gave me great advice about that. I’m glad it helped you. Do something good for yourself today!

      Enjoy Life’s Journey Don’t Give Up – Read my blog – http://www.joanyedwards.com.wordpress.com

      Joan Y. Edwards joanyedwards@earthlink.net 1. #Pub Sub 3rd Fri – Send a submission to a publisher on the third Friday of each month from February 2010 through January 2011. May I count you in? 2. Buy a copy of Flip Flap Floodle to instill Never Give up Perseverance character trait in your children and grandchildren. 3. Need Inspirational devotions, puzzles, and skits for children at church? Visit http://www.joanyedwards.com

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